Keep TWEAKING it!

November 27, 2020 OluwatosinLeave a comment

Working in 2020 looks a lot different from what it was less than a year ago. This year has required some type of adjustments from us humans. At the start of Covid-19 it became apparent that I needed to start facilitating online workshops and somehow, I got everything right but couldn’t get my lighting issue right. This bothered me and lot, I played around with different settings and I even contemplated spending additional money to get a new lamp just to add additional light to my workstation so that I can have a well-lit background for my online sessions.

After several months of thinking about it but ignoring it I decided over the weekend to rearranged my workstation and bam it clicked….. my sitting position has been backing the light and my lamp was positioned on the side and even though I had enough light in the area I needed to make some adjustments to maximize the effect. The little adjustment of repositioning my lamp was all I needed to make to change everything. I did not need to spend any additional money for anything or do any major change to my workstation.

What this lesson taught me is that sometimes the answer we need to help us move up and start operating on a different level is hidden in plain sight and if we are not living in the moment and operating at a level of mindfulness we may miss what we need to get the result that we want.

Secondly, you can decide to stay in the same spot because you feel helpless and you feel like change will cost so much and instead of making the little adjustment you decide to continue to live with a mediocre version of your dream when all you need to do is tweak a bit and you will unlock your next level. Don’t stay the same because you feel you can’t afford what the price tag that change presents.

I learn majorly from little things like this. This lesson brought perspective and also taught me yet again never to settle for less when I’m made for more. I don’t know what you need to tweak… it may be the business idea, it may be your exercise routine, it may be your diet, it may be your willingness to stand out of your own way… don’t be afraid to make the little adjustments that may end up making a big difference in your life.

You may not have all the answers you need to make your adjustments but don’t box yourself into believing what you have right now is the best version of you. Be open minded enough to tweak as you go in life.

Love & Light ❤

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Empowered in the WAITING

August 31, 2020September 1, 2020 Oluwatosin2 Comments

We live in such fast world now and the word “waiting” is beginning to sound alien to many. We want what we want, and we want it now. Social media isn’t even making things better with all that we are bombarded with daily. People never talk so much about their grind and grit or the bts of their journey, but we see posts that shows a lot of balling it out and luxurious lavish living. Giving off the impression that this sort of life was achieved overnight.

This is not to say that people need to explain how long they’ve had to wait or what they’ve had to endure to get what they have. But there should be an unspoken caveat for everyone scrolling through social media posts and feeds that reads “it’s OK to scroll and enjoy this posts but it’s not OK to compare your real life with someone else’s highlight reels that never tells a complete story”. Having this at the back of your mind will guard your heart against comparison that robs you of joy while you are in your waiting season.

The waiting process for anything in this life can be a lot whether it’s us waiting on the right partner, to get a job or change jobs, to get a promotion or to have a baby. Waiting requires patience and trust that there is a process to everything and there is capacity building going on in our lives preparing us to be able to handle what we say we deserve.

While we wait on our greenlight, to ensure that we are waiting well and building ourselves in the process there are a few things to consider on this journey of purposeful waiting:

Gratitude: we can complain from now till the end of ages about how nothing is working in our life or we can switch it up and take a long hard look at our life and show gratitude for those things that are working. Gratitude fills us with peace and centers us in ways that complaining never will. With gratitude our heart becomes open and readily able to see possibilities and potential opportunities. Cultivating a heart of gratitude when nothing is working will take a lot of practice. Every day make up your mind to look for one thing to be grateful about and write it down. This would become your pick me up on days when it’s really hard to see anything to be grateful for. You can create for yourself a gratitude jar or journal for this activity. If you can’t see an open door, make up your mind to praise God in the hallway.

Be open minded: while you wait don’t assume that you’ve seen it all and you know it all. This is the time to learn new things to broaden your perspective. This is your time to network with different people. We only get results based on our level of revelation and exposure. There are some ideas for your progress that will not come if you are not open minded enough to meet people and face situations that will challenge your old ways of thinking. Somebody you meet, an article you read or a training you attend while in your waiting can equip you with the answers you’ve been looking for to solve some problems you are facing. Don’t do yourself a disservice by holding on to your own point of view alone.

Don’t rush the process: While you may be itching to get out of a job or find the right partner or get that promotion don’t rush the process. If a door isn’t open yet there is every possibility that what you need to dominate your next level, you have not yet unlocked on this level. Give yourself time and be patient in whatever season you are in. Don’t get so upset or have your ego so bruised because of what is not working out that you settle for less than you deserve.

Waiting can be hard but if there is anything I know so well, it is that all good things will eventually come and in time you will understand that there was purpose in the waiting.

Don’t give up hang in there and know that I’m part of the people in your corner rooting for your success.

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Cheerleader

August 12, 2020 OluwatosinLeave a comment

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Earlier today I was watching a clip on social media from a TV show I follow on and of because your girl is busy and can’t keep up with TV.😀😉 In this clip that I watched the players were divided into 2 groups. They had a game to play that required a participant to be blindfolded and kick a ball into a goalpost and one of their team mates was chosen to pick the ball and place in front of the blindfolded person who will then kick it into the goalpost they were timed for this game so the pressure was on.

When they started the coordination wasn’t great and the ball kept missing the goalpost and the blindfolded individual kept asking the other person picking the ball… how am I doing? is it working? and even though it wasn’t working the person placing the ball for them kept telling the blindfolded team mate you are the best, you are doing wonderful, you are doing great. After a while, the blindfolded person started kicking the ball in the goalpost and their team eventually won the game. 🤩🙌

I sat back and even though it was a short clip, I had tears in my eyes because this clip reminded me of life and the quote above from Maya Angelou. In life, we are all involved in different ~~games~~ things that always require our best efforts. Sometimes even when we are giving our best, we are not sure we are doing well because there are too many things stopping us from seeing the results of all the work we are putting into this dream or work. Other times we tend to be too critical of ourselves and we start second guessing our own talents and gifts.

So as we journey in life it’s important to have the right people in our corner cheering for us letting us know that even when we feel like we are losing we are not alone. We need to be surrounded by people who will call us to our greatness and help us see it even when we can’t really see it.

I am all for having the right people in my life and I am a big believer of keep the circle small with the right people. But I am a bigger believer in “be the right person for the people in your life“. Before you compile a list of what you want “in your friends” I hope you reflect what you have on the list “to your friends”. I do not believe in asking people to be what I am not prepared to be to them.

That said, I hope we learn and show up each day to be a voice that let the people in our life know when they need to get their acts together and step up. I also pray that we do not do it in a critical, malicious, or judgmental way. I hope we step up and cheer loudest for the people life places in our path and continue to root for them until they are able to believe and see the greatness that they have on the inside of them. I hope when the pressure is much and it’s hard to see through the tears, we are that calm voice that let the people in our lives know they are doing well, they are the best and they are not their circumstances. I hope we are the people who call out other people’s victory alongside them even when they are having a hard time seeing it in the moment.

Continue to put goodness in the world one life at a time! 💖

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I’m ZOOOOOMED OUT

May 26, 2020 OluwatosinLeave a comment

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It’s interesting that with quarantine which is meant to isolate us and give us more “me” time the world managed to invent a new avenue to have us bombarded whether it’s by work meetings or by people who just feel like they need to release content on all social media platform and we need to learn some more.

At the initial start of the whole lockdown your girl realised she had some time on her hand 🤣and she was ready to get on that whole “learn something new” train that was moving and making us believe that if we don’t come out with content or products by the time quarantine was over we might as well count ourselves failures.

Listen i’m no lazy human and i look out for ways to learn and also improve and develop myself. I’m startegic and i prioritize my personal development. But this time we are not home on a vacation we are dealing with a pandemic and we all deal differently and it’s important to remember to show grace to ourselves on days when we just can’t take it. Nobody has been down this road before and we are all taking it one day at a time with the help of God.

At the start, your girl was always clicking on IGLive and i was receiving links upon links to several zoom meetings to attend, catching up on myriad of messages on whatsapp group chats then to add onto this work kinda had their own team meetings on a daily. When i say it was crazy it was crazy. 😣

This got me thinking about life and how we allow ourselves to be bombarded with commitment to others and things that don’t even serve us just because we let ourselves believe we can’t say NO or we are just not a good steward of our own time. We get so committed to the motions that we start to lose ourselves and we start neglecting our self-care.

One of the biggest gift you will ever give yourself on a daily basis is the gift of spending time with yourself.💗 I mean really seeing yourself for you. You need to get to the point where you drop everything and just sit with yourself. Even if you get one hour everyday to say no to everything else and pick yourself you will gain a lot from this. God has shown us grace and it’s important that we bask in that grace and show ourselves grace.

I’m grateful work finally figured out a way to not have everyday team meetings and also your girl scrolls past any IG live or zoom link that’s not within my alloted scheduled time for external things. It’s okay to let people do what they do and you miss out without having any FOMO.

Don’t lose yourself trying to be everything to all people. Look after yourself and show yourself grace everyday.

Continue to stay safe.

Love & Light! 💖

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Finding your way to better!!

January 30, 2018 OluwatosinLeave a comment

Say what! January is just about wrapping up and I hope you’ve done good with your new year resolution so far. I’m not a huge fan of resolutions because I know we only write them to break them. lol! What I believe in though is having vision statements and mission statements that are more detailed and one can go over their life holistically and appraise ones self and also set achievable goals that help in fulfilling the vision and mission.

We all want to be better humans. We want to do better, feel better, act better and just generally deal better in life. We are not talking perfection because that’s just you setting yourself up for failure and frustration but you want to work on yourself so that you are always one step closer to the best version of yourself there is.

It’s easy to say I want to change and even start on the process but then we lose steam and fall back to old ways because staying the same is just “easy” and it doesn’t require us to stretch in any way. But the risk with staying the same is you will always achieve the same results that stops you short of being the better version of yourself. There is an upgraded version of who you are that is worth birthing but you have to be willing to put the work in on a daily basis

Let me share just 4 steps below that you could consider to help you stick to your plans through this journey of finding the better version of yourself:

1. Understand your WHY– it’s one thing to want to change, it’s another thing to really understand why you need to change. If your why isn’t strong enough your passion for the change will not hold. So to sustain your process you need to truly understand why you want to change. Why do you want to lose the weight, why do you want to change your career, why do you want to relocate, why do you want to find peace within yourself. Understanding your why will let you know how much this means to you and what your life will look like when it finally happens. Your why will also let you know if you are doing this for yourself or for other people’s approval. If you don’t want change for yourself you won’t be motivated enough to follow through on your decision.

2. Give yourself a call to action: I’m sure we have all clicked on some websites that have requested us to commit to something by filling out a form it’s the same way you should view your journey once you’ve written your vision. Set for yourself a daily call to action that you know you can stick to but still challenges you and requires effort from you.

3. Hold yourself accountable: so now you understand your why, and you have drawn your call to action. It’s time to hold yourself accountable to ensure that you follow through. If you don’t trust yourself to deliver on your daily promise to yourself you may want to find an accountability buddy that will help you by providing support to you and also telling you the truth when you are not living up to your own expectations.

4. Celebrate your small wins: some change take longer than others to see results. Some things you want to change may take you several months before you start seeing the return on your investment and some may take just a few days regardless of how long it takes don’t be so hard on yourself don’t think of how far you have to go, think of how far you’ve come and how committed you are to yourself on this journey of becoming a better version of yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back for sticking to the plan and continue on your journey. Celebrate the small wins but don’t quit before you achieve your results.
The better version of yourself will emerge as long as you don’t give up on yourself. Even if nobody is rooting for your better version make sure you are rooting for yourself. You are the best you’ve got.
You are never alone

Love and Light

Tosin

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Lesson from a 2 year old!!

January 25, 2018 OluwatosinLeave a comment

A few days ago I learnt a very important lesson from my 2 years old niece. She was getting ready for school and her mum needed to quickly attend to something and as such it became my duty to keep an eye on her. I walked into her room with hopes of getting her ready for school myself. She looked at me and refused to cooperate, in her own words “i want my mummy”.

My niece knew she needed help getting ready for school but when help came (in the form of Aunty) because it was packaged differently she refused. So getting ready for school took more time that morning because little Miss 2 years old “bosslady” had her mind made up on who should get her ready for school. She’d rather continue to wait for her assistance to come the way she had envisioned it in her royal empire (that is her 2 year old brain) than take one that was readily available.

There and then it hit me that we as adults sometimes act like children we refuse an opportunity just because it didn’t not appear in a package we expected. We have set our prayer point and our mind is so fixed on how things should look, what the person offering the help should look like or what the opportunities we are after should look like.

Somehow we meet someone who has the ability to help us get our desired result and we mess it up just because they don’t look like the type of person we have envisioned. We see some opportunities that could change our lives but because it doesn’t come packed like we imagined and hasn’t got the attached perks we have imagined we decide this can’t be the opportunity that will change our life.

Sometimes your opportunity to meet the person for your next level will require that you take up an offer to work in a particular office branch that you don’t have your mind set on don’t walk away because if you skip this opportunity you may never find them. Sometimes you may have to take a lower paying job to get to the higher paying position with the corner office you have envisioned. You may have to take that job on the shop floor with longer hours so you can acquire some client relations and interpersonal skills before you get your promotion as a supervisor.

This is not a call to settle but a a reminder that you should be discerning because sometimes God switches things up on us. Don’t expect that because God showed up in a certain way yesterday He will always show up like that. When we don’t understand we just have to pray for discernment and trust that God and You got this.

Let’s be clear sometimes opportunities will show up exactly the way we have envisioned it but other times opportunities will show up not looking anything like we have envisioned. The fact that some things don’t come wrapped in the kind of gift wrap we asked for doesn’t make it anything less magical.

Don’t miss your blessing because it doesn’t come packaged in the way you envisioned it to be.

You are never alone

Love and Light

Tosin

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Time’s up!!

January 22, 2018 OluwatosinLeave a comment

Ha! 2018 kicked off to a good start we have seen great activities and this should be expected in any New Year. One of the activities I’ve found really interesting so far is the Time’s up movement. A movement that was first founded in 2006 and resurfaced again in 2018. (Wikipedia). I for one never knew about it in 2006 but the joy in my heart and the smile on my face grows really wide each time I see that hashtag #timesup and also see the various marches taking place across America. I see what collective effort and the power of positive social media can achieve. I love what this movement represent because nobody should ever be harasse or abused sexually or otherwise in the workplace just because somebody feels they have the power. So yes Time’s up.

It took a fraction of women to speak up and lend their voice even in the midst of fear. They risked ridicule and judgements from bystanders who may even be going through the same thing. These few women opened their mouth to stop the torment that kept them awake at night and the guilt and shame that plagued them during the day. Look how far this has come and how many people have been exposed but much more how many people have been liberated just because some women gave power to their once silent voice.

Permit me to use this hashtag as the backdrop of this post and also to drive home a point I keep reminding myself and those who care to listen-we have to find the power of our voice whether it be in our one bedroom apartment, hospital hallway, corner shop or the mansion with the white picket fence. Don’t be afraid to say time’s up for anything that’s holding you back.

Let’s face it people can go to war for you, win you the trophy to signify your freedom but until you feel free in yourself and know that you are deserving you will never experience the joys of freedom and you will never be able to walk the true extent of the freedom somebody thought you deserve. There are lot of things holding us back from being a better version of ourselves that we need to serve the time’s up notice. Time’s up is not just another hashtag that should be used to stop what others are doing to us but it should be personalised to stop what we are doing to sabotage ourselves from letting our lights shine. Don’t just take a seat and watch this movement but look in your life and lend a voice for yourself on the things that have held you back and in 2018 serve them the time’s up notice.

For me I’m daily serving Time’s up notice to those negative voice that make me second guess myself and force me to backspace my uniqueness and significance. Time’s up for feeling sorry for myself. Time’s up on doubting my own ability to be great and achieve greatness. Time’s up on procrastination that stop me from achieving my daily goals. Time’s up on waiting to hear people’s opinion on what I should or shouldn’t do or what I can achieve or can’t achieve.

Long after the hashtag fades and long after the parades stop you will be left with the reality of what you have made out of your life. Don’t let 2018 be that year where you don’t spell it out that Time’s up.

So here goes Time’s up for believing you can’t get that degree, time’s up for not doing better by yourself, time’s up for thoughts and mentality that reduce you to nothing but an average and a loser. Time’s up for friends who hold you back and speak negativity into your life. Time’s up for talking yourself out of real good opportunities just because you think you are not worthy or good enough.

Don’t be afraid to let your life hear your voice because if you don’t call time’s up now you will continue to battle the same issue even years to come. Make this your turnaround year and speak to yourself all those positive things you want to see until you believe them about yourself and also be ready to put the work in. Don’t just stand on the sidelines using the hashtag time’s up without letting your personal life benefit from it.

4 things to consider :
1. VISION: write the vision and make it plain. (Habakkuk 2:2) If you don’t have a vision for your life you ain’t creating anything with your life. When there is no vision you don’t have focus and you are not able to build boundaries for your life, so anything goes. Do yourself a favour and write your vision. Your life should mean something and should accomplish something significant. Let your vision drive you and not somebody else’s vision.

2. SPEAK: you know those positive and affirmative words that you want people to tell you. Those words that are significant to you, those words that build you up and put a pep in your step, those words that make you feel like you are the best version of you there is. This year time’s up waiting for a hype-man or hype-woman to speak these words for you. You’ve got to speak over yourself. Look in the mirror and hype yourself up by yourself. It might not look like anything is changing but one day you will wake up and believe those words you have spoken and you will start seeing it in yourself. Voice activation mode have to be in full operation this year if you are going to call time’s up. Nobody calls time’s up in silence.

3. ACT: action is important. You don’t call time’s up and just sit down doing nothing. You know what needs to change, don’t just speak it get up and change it. Take those little step everyday toward your vision. If you speak time’s up to “thinking I’m not deserving of good things” then the action will be to start acting gracious to yourself. Treat yourself with respect. If you speak time’s up to “thinking I can’t get that degree”. The action is to look for a college,fill out your application form and then submit it. You got this and you can do it.

4. ASSOCIATION: our life will be influenced by people and we also will influence people. Check your circle and make sure all of the people in it want to win because if they don’t want to win they won’t want to see you win and they will talk you out of every good thing that you know you deserve. So find the right connection/network/friends who will be wind beneath your wings. Let it be known Time’s up on friends who hold me back from finding the best version of myself.
Don’t just wish for better, speak better and act better.

You are never alone

Love and Light

Tosin

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Does God have a plan for me ??

January 19, 2018 OluwatosinLeave a comment

The clouds above your head is so thick, the ground around you so steep and the prayer book that once recorded many ticks for answered prayers seem to not have recorded answers at all in a while. You look up and you look down, you look around you in a bid to find an answer to why nothing seems to be working but all you can come up with is God do you still have plans for me?

Waiting season and dry seasons sometimes are words we use often when we are going through a season of no productivity. “Waiting” this when something is delayed and you have to wait a little bit longer before you get your shot and sometimes you are waiting in just one area in your life but things are still happening in other areas of your life.”Dryness” on the other hand means to be unproductive. It’s a season where nothing is yielding fruit and all the areas of your life is just shut down and nothing is working.Like everyone I know I want to be in season at all times. I want to be productive and I want to make progress but what do you do when you have to wait or even when you are not in the waiting room but you are visited by a dry season.

The divorce is signed, sealed and delivered and you seem lost because now you have to learn how to navigate the scene alone as a single parent and get used to going over every thing by yourself. You’ve watched the bank account go from a few millions or thousands to zero. Your change has become strange. You have submitted resumes and filled out applications till you are left wondering if those mails ever dropped at the right mailbox because if it did then you should have an answer by now. You’ve watched calls from friends and allies drop down from 20 or more calls a day to 5 and now the phone doesn’t even ring save a random irrelevant sales and marketing call from the phone provider. You wake up and everyday you are starring the same situation in the face and you are left wondering…Does God have plans for my life?

If this was a norm then it could be safe to conclude that God and His heavenly armies have gone on vacation from humans but yet you hear people share their testimonies of how God picked them up and how they sort of put heaven on a timer and things worked and this further buttresses the scripture you know all too well…..”He that watches over you does not sleep nor slumber” (Psalm 121:4). But if you go by this dryness then you can be tempted to conclude maybe God isn’t just here for me anymore and the question pops up again….. Does God have a plans for me?

It will be okay if you are not serving God because you will be able to conclude that the difference between you and all these other testifiers will have to be the God factor. But wait a minute they pray and you pray, they sow and you sow, they fast and you fast, they speak “it” into the atmosphere and you also do the same but they get result and you don’t get.

If we are all going to be honest the dry season can play with our minds so much to make us think we are forgotten. But my post today is to encourage you DON’T LOSE HOPE. Before you start to think there is a problem with you and God must definitely have favourites I want you to know God doesn’t have favourites. I mean how could He?? if He’s the God that makes the rain fall on the just and the unjust (Matthew 5:45) and I’m talking rain the showers from heaven that grows our crops and make us have harvest so we don’t go into famine. God gives rain to everybody.That same God is your Father and before you write yourself out of the will by questioning if God still has plans for you then know this Jeremiah 29:11 (for I know the thoughts that I think towards you thoughts of peace and not of evil to give you an expected end) is still in the bible and if there is anything I know for sure the beautiful thoughts you have for yourself can never out weigh the awesome thoughts God has for you.

Relax God has a plan and He’s got the strategy for your breakthrough. He knew you will be here and He knew you will have this questions but unlike you He’s not lost or confused as to how to change it and turn it around.

Let me quickly highlight below some steps to keep you going while you navigate the waiting room and dry season

1. Walk in alignment with God: stay in agreement with God. God gives us instructions ensure that you are daily following it. Check that you are in the right location God has for your life and by location I don’t just mean “place” I mean “positioning”. Because if the location is wrong the blessing ain’t going to follow. So you have to be sure that you are positioned right in God through Christ. Don’t let what you don’t see dictate how you want to live with God. Let God call the shot no matter what you face.

2. Continue to Pray and Speak the promises: the bible says if the cloud be full it will rain down (Ecclesiastes 11:3). In the same way we say every storm eventually runs out of rain is the same way we can say every full cloud will rain down. But you have to be mindful of what your cloud will rain down. If all you’ve poured up there is negativity that will continue to breed the cycle of negativity. Don’t be the reason why you stay stuck in dryness longer than expected. So get in the word, get your prayers up and speak those promises.

3. Volunteer: most times our thoughts are tormented when we are alone. Get among people, volunteer in church and community activities. Stay active by providing for others what you wish was provided for you. Don’t sit around and wait for a pity party. Get active even if it’s for a couple of hours weekly just painting a smile on someone’s face. Don’t just sit a rounding waiting for a miracle out action to your faith. Even when we think we have no hope left to give I guarantee you we do. Somebody out there needs your smile even if you have to force that smile and paint it on. Even in your broken state never forget that you are still an answer to someone’s prayers. So get up and go be an answer in 2018

4. Study the Bible: the word you hear has a way of uplifting you and inspiring hope in you so while you navigate the dry season of your life make sure you are getting the right words into you. “Faith” and I mean problem solving faith comes by hearing and hearing the word of God (Romans 10:17). What you hear impacts your thoughts and your thoughts dictate your actions/results. So the solution you require to change the situation can only be found with the God who knows all things. So read the word, whether you are reading alone, or listening from a podcast, a devotional or a book don’t go without studying God’s word.

5. Take it one day at a time: Don’t look at how long you’ve been in the dryness or in the waiting game or how long left you have to go. Just stay focused on one day at a time and ask for the strength to make it through each day. This will help put you in a good mental state that is required for cultivating solutions and even hearing God when He gives you instructions. You need a sound mind to walk through this season so avoid taking on unnecessary worries. Set yourself a self-care plan that helps boost your mental health.

I know the dry season is tough because I’ve been there. I know each day can be a battle and I know giving up looks like the next best thing to do but trust me that isn’t an option because the bible says “He that will come will come and not delay” (Hebrews 10:37). And to answer you heart aching question YES GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE. God and His mega awesome plans for your life is going to arrive and your testimony will help heal other people in your future.

You are never alone.

Love and Light

Tosin

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CAPACITY

February 16, 2017 OluwatosinLeave a comment

As I stood in my kitchen today doing my regular chores I found my mind straying not to anything in particular and boom the word CAPACITY popped up deep within me. It’s a general word that we hear often and there’s nothing special about it. But as I began to think and ponder that word I started to learn from it. Everyone of us has a capacity. If you take a jar and pour into it the jar will only hold what it has the capacity to contain.

So basically it’s not all about the amount you are willing to pour into a jar it’s about the amount the jar is built to hold. The amazing thing about humans that makes us different from just any regular jar is that we have the ability to increase our capacity to retain more at different times in our life. So whether it’s love, forgiveness, hope, faith, wealth etc we can’t let ourself be limited to a small capacity. We can determine in our heart that we will do what it takes to increase the capacity we can hold. Because the truth is what we can hold determines what we can give out to bless our world.

When you talk about capacity it’s not just from the dimension of retaining but also from the dimension of giving. If you pour into a pint and a gallon the quantity you get out won’t be the same. You get more product out of the gallon than the pint. In the same way if you pour into pint minded people and expect a gallon supply you will be frustrated because pint minded people will not give at a gallon level. They will pour into you what they have. You can’t give what you don’t have.

Don’t get frustrated because you are not getting more from certain things or certain people check yourself, check your expectation and check their capacity. Expecting a gallon content from a pint minded person or situation is going to leave you frustrated. If you know you want to give at a gallon capacity you have to be ready to do what it takes to grow yourself from a pint minded person to a gallon minded person where you increase your capacity to hold and in turn you increase the content that you have to bless your world with.

Sometimes some people are giving you the best at the capacity they have but because you want more you forget to check their capacity. You can’t hold people to an unfair expectation that you have of them. Check the capacity and understand the capcity. Don’t frustrate yourself or others by making demands that is more than their capacity. Also if you are a gallon person who continue to pour into something or someone that only has a pint capacity you overwhelm them because they don’t understand why you continue to pour when clearly they can’t contain it anymore don’t waste your time pouring your content into people or things that can’t hold it.

Don’t cast your pearls before swines. You can’t blame a pint minded person for not understanding you have so much content to pour and they can’t hold the content.It’s not their fault they don’t get it but it will be a waste of your precious time if you continue to pour into containers that are not built to hold your content. Knowing when to walk away or stop pouring is something we all have to learn at some point in our lives. By all means increase your capacity so that you can receive more and give more to your world. But also be wise to know that you can’t give people more than the capacity they are built to retain.

Don’t let pint minded people frustrate you with their pint size thinking. Get yourself surrounded by people who contain and give at your capacity because nothing frustrates more than having miss matched expectations of yourself and of people. Pint size people will only give pint size content don’t let yourself be fooled into thinking you can get more from them or they can hold more. Check the capacity before you pour! Check the capacity before you make a demand.

Don’t limit yourself to a pint size person when you can grow and increase your capacity in terms of the love, forgiveness, knowledge, hope faith, joy, abundance that you can retain and give.

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February 12, 2017 Oluwatosin2 Comments

Don’t limit yourself to a pint size person when you can grow and increase your capacity in terms of the love, forgiveness, knowledge, hope faith, joy, abundance that you can retain and give.