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Life and Lessons

Happy Holidays everyone…. I hope we took some time to rest and enjoy the festivities as best as we could given the whole event of 2020.

A week ago, I was at the dental office to take out my wisdom teeth and as the dentist dentists were struggling to get them out, I let the situation speak to me. At the beginning of the year, I had gone for my routine dental appointment as part of what I wanted to do right this year. I realised that I didn’t maximize my dental benefits in the last couple of years because I never went for my appointments……a girl could not be bothered plus I assumed I didn’t have no issues with my teeth at all. Yes, I had some nagging pains every now and again but nothing that was concerning atleast in my opinion.

So, at my initial appointment my dentist highlighted a plan for the year and part of that plan was to take out my upper wisdom teeth. The wisdom teeth had to go ☹ no date was set but I got my instructions. Interestingly this was instrumental for me in setting my intentions. It wasn’t even an intention I set consciously but every time I felt a toothache, I would look in the mirror and tell God that I needed to take the teeth out in the course of the year. I didn’t create a ritual around this and that’s why to me it’s some unconscious intention but now when I look back, I realize that I had several times in the course of the year that I said those words out loud and I can see how even when I wasn’t paying attention I was setting my intentions for what I wanted. It took months before my insurance claims approval came back but interestingly, I got to get the wisdom teeth out before the end of the year. The lesson for me in this was don’t be so fixated on the “how” and “when” keep going and don’t waver just trust that God will make things happen when it should happen.

Last year my upper wisdom teeth wasn’t giving me unbearable issues as a matter of fact I could go on several months or even years prior without feeling any kind of pain but any time I would feel pain it was quite unbearable. I asked the dentist why the wisdom teeth had to go and if I don’t extract them it shouldn’t matter those where my lines of questioning lol…. The dentist told me they were not of any use to me and they will continue to grow because the set below them was missing so nothing will stop the ones at the top from growing further and it will cause me issues in the long run. There was no lie in all that was said because months down the line while waiting for insurance approval one of the teeth broke and I was also told I had cavity in both. My wisdom teeth belonged in my mouth they made my dentition complete but the fact that something has been in your life for so long just taking up space and causing you occasional pain doesn’t mean you leave them there without evaluating their usefulness. There are so many things we hold on to that we should be letting go off.

On the day of the extraction, with every pressure I felt my mind was set on the relief that was going to come, knowing that I won’t be waking up to tooth ache caused by my wisdom teeth again I endured the pressure and afterwards the pain that came with the extraction. In life we need to always count our cost and remove from our life things that are just occupying space so that we can free ourselves of some unnecessary shackles. Let’s be honest yanking anything off whether a bad habit, an unproductive relationship, leaving our comfort zone or moving on from a dead-end job is not going to come painless but we need to cut unnecessary attachment to stuff that’s occupying space without any real added value.

Don’t be so addicted to deadweight that you decide to stay loyal to it under the guise of “it doesn’t bother me”. Be brutally honest with yourself set you intentions for a better you whatever that looks like and face the deadweight with every sense of honesty and take steps to let it fall off. You can’t travel with a bag load of chaff and lie to yourself that you have a bag full of gold. If you want gold you need to go find it and be intentional about finding it. Gold in this context is metaphorical and it means anything that’ll bring you joy and spark the fire in you.

As we push forward into another new year take a good look at yourself ask yourself pertinent questions set your intentions on what you want, if there are things that need to leave even if you think they are not a discomfort now but you know they are holding you back from being a better version of yourself then you need to trust your life in God’s hands and be ready to put the work in to uproot and let go. God will always meet us at the point of obedience don’t hold on to anything longer than you should especially when they are not serving you in any way. There’s a lot of freedom waiting on the other side of letting go.

You deserve to be the best version of yourself that you were created to be. Declutter and travel light.

Love & Light

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Keep TWEAKING it!

Working in 2020 looks a lot different from what it was less than a year ago. This year has required some type of adjustments from us humans. At the start of Covid-19 it became apparent that I needed to start facilitating online workshops and somehow, I got everything right but couldn’t get my lighting issue right. This bothered me and lot, I played around with different settings and I even contemplated spending additional money to get a new lamp just to add additional light to my workstation so that I can have a well-lit background for my online sessions.

After several months of thinking about it but ignoring it I decided over the weekend to rearranged my workstation and bam it clicked….. my sitting position has been backing the light and my lamp was positioned on the side and even though I had enough light in the area I needed to make some adjustments to maximize the effect. The little adjustment of repositioning my lamp was all I needed to make to change everything. I did not need to spend any additional money for anything or do any major change to my workstation.

What this lesson taught me is that sometimes the answer we need to help us move up and start operating on a different level is hidden in plain sight and if we are not living in the moment and operating at a level of mindfulness we may miss what we need to get the result that we want.

Secondly, you can decide to stay in the same spot because you feel helpless and you feel like change will cost so much and instead of making the little adjustment you decide to continue to live with a mediocre version of your dream when all you need to do is tweak a  bit and you will unlock your next level. Don’t stay the same because you feel you can’t afford what the price tag that change presents.

I learn majorly from little things like this. This lesson brought perspective and also taught me yet again never to settle for less when I’m made for more. I don’t know what you need to tweak… it may be the business idea, it may be your exercise routine, it may be your diet, it may be your willingness to stand out of your own way… don’t be afraid to make the little adjustments that may end up making a big difference in your life.

You may not have all the answers you need to make your adjustments but don’t box yourself into believing what you have right now is the best version of you. Be open minded enough to tweak as you go in life.

Love & Light ❤

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Empowered in the WAITING

We live in such fast world now and the word “waiting” is beginning to sound alien to many. We want what we want, and we want it now. Social media isn’t even making things better with all that we are bombarded with daily. People never talk so much about their grind and grit or the bts of their journey, but we see posts that shows a lot of balling it out and luxurious lavish living. Giving off the impression that this sort of life was achieved overnight.

This is not to say that people need to explain how long they’ve had to wait or what they’ve had to endure to get what they have. But there should be an unspoken caveat for everyone scrolling through social media posts and feeds that reads “it’s OK to scroll and enjoy this posts but it’s not OK to compare your real life with someone else’s highlight reels that never tells a complete story”. Having this at the back of your mind will guard your heart against comparison that robs you of joy while you are in your waiting season.

The waiting process for anything in this life can be a lot whether it’s us waiting on the right partner, to get a job or change jobs, to get a promotion or to have a baby. Waiting requires patience and trust that there is a process to everything and there is capacity building going on in our lives preparing us to be able to handle what we say we deserve.

While we wait on our greenlight, to ensure that we are waiting well and building ourselves in the process there are a few things to consider on this journey of purposeful waiting:

Gratitude: we can complain from now till the end of ages about how nothing is working in our life or we can switch it up and take a long hard look at our life and show gratitude for those things that are working. Gratitude fills us with peace and centers us in ways that complaining never will. With gratitude our heart becomes open and readily able to see possibilities and potential opportunities. Cultivating a heart of gratitude when nothing is working will take a lot of practice. Every day make up your mind to look for one thing to be grateful about and write it down. This would become your pick me up on days when it’s really hard to see anything to be grateful for. You can create for yourself a gratitude jar or journal for this activity. If you can’t see an open door, make up your mind to praise God in the hallway.

Be open minded: while you wait don’t assume that you’ve seen it all and you know it all. This is the time to learn new things to broaden your perspective. This is your time to network with different people. We only get results based on our level of revelation and exposure. There are some ideas for your progress that will not come if you are not open minded enough to meet people and face situations that will challenge your old ways of thinking. Somebody you meet, an article you read or a training you attend while in your waiting can equip you with the answers you’ve been looking for to solve some problems you are facing. Don’t do yourself a disservice by holding on to your own point of view alone.

Don’t rush the process: While you may be itching to get out of a job or find the right partner or get that promotion don’t rush the process. If a door isn’t open yet there is every possibility that what you need to dominate your next level, you have not yet unlocked on this level. Give yourself time and be patient in whatever season you are in. Don’t get so upset or have your ego so bruised because of what is not working out that you settle for less than you deserve.

Waiting can be hard but if there is anything I know so well, it is that all good things will eventually come and in time you will understand that there was purpose in the waiting.

Don’t give up hang in there and know that I’m part of the people in your corner rooting for your success.

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Dealing with REJECTION

The word rejection is not a new word and it is not new territory to anyone. Whether it is the fact that you were not picked for the job or the date didn’t call back after you felt everything went well, or you were overlooked for the promotion. There isn’t one person walking the face of this earth that has not felt the sting of rejection and the disappointment that comes with being overlooked for something that was so important and that you felt you deserved.

It can cut deep but rejection is not the end of the story because better is always in our future regardless of how we feel in the moment. As I sat down this morning with the feeling of gratitude and contentment, I appreciated my own growth over the years, and I would like to share some tips to help you deal with rejection:

Acceptance: For us to heal the first thing we will always have to do is to accept the situation. Don’t try to gloss over it or push it aside. Accept the situation for what it is, embrace it and get up from it. We don’t heal from what we don’t accept. Acceptance is your first step to moving forward. We can’t live in denial and act like we didn’t hurt in the process. For it to be termed rejection it meant something to us to start with. So, accept things for what they are and move on from it.

Mindset: This is an important aspect; we need to do a mindset check every now and again. There is a belief that we reproduce in real life what we think about. If you are dealing with a constant bout of rejection, it’s time to check your thought pattern to know what you are constantly looping. If you always have the mindset that good things don’t come to you, you are not good enough, everyone gets it but you and you find yourself rolling this reel of negativity, it’s time to fix your mindset. This will take a lot of work because there’s a root cause for this kind of mindset. Don’t be afraid to face your mindset and work to break patterns of negative thoughts so that you can start seeing different results in your life.

Let go and embrace the next adventure: After you have accepted and addressed your mindset you need not internalize rejection. Always know that what is meant for you will find you and what you missed would not have been able to fill you up. Let it go and believe yours is coming. Go out there and be ready to face the next adventure with open hands and heart.

Be Positive: Know that you are ENOUGH. Whether your rejection came from a job you din’t get even though you interviewed well, a relationship break-up, or a promotion you didn’t get. Know this, you are built right for the right opportunities and you have all it takes to win and excel. Forgive the people who overlooked you and know that you are enough for the right person, job, or promotion. A better door is in your future and great things are still on the way to you. Stay positive and don’t give up.

Rejection can be painful and make you second guess your significance but don’t ever feel like a failure take the lessons you have learned and continue on your grind because one day you will look back and be thankful for all the times you felt the sting of rejection. Use everything to build yourself into a better version of you.

Everything will work together for good!

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Cheerleader

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Earlier today I was watching a clip on social media from a TV show I follow on and of because your girl is busy and can’t keep up with TV.😀😉  In this clip that I watched the players were divided into 2 groups. They had a game to play that required a participant to be blindfolded and kick a ball into a goalpost and one of their team mates was chosen to pick the ball and place in front of the blindfolded person who will then kick it into the goalpost they were timed for this game so the pressure was on.

When they started the coordination wasn’t great and the ball kept missing the goalpost and the blindfolded individual kept asking the other person picking the ball… how am I doing? is it working? and even though it wasn’t working the person placing the ball for them kept telling the blindfolded team mate you are the best, you are doing wonderful, you are doing great. After a while, the blindfolded person started kicking the ball in the goalpost and their team eventually won the game. 🤩🙌

I sat back and even though it was a short clip, I had tears in my eyes because this clip reminded me of life and the quote above from Maya Angelou. In life, we are all involved in different games things that always require our best efforts. Sometimes even when we are giving our best, we are not sure we are doing well because there are too many things stopping us from seeing the results of all the work we are putting into this dream or work. Other times we tend to be too critical of ourselves and we start second guessing our own talents and gifts.

So as we journey in life it’s important to have the right people in our corner cheering for us letting us know that even when we feel like we are losing we are not alone. We need to be surrounded by people who will call us to our greatness and help us see it even when we can’t really see it.

I am all for having the right people in my life and I am a big believer of keep the circle small with the right people. But I am a bigger believer in “be the right person for the people in your life“. Before you compile a list of what you want “in your friends” I hope you reflect what you have on the list “to your friends”. I do not believe in asking people to be what I am not prepared to be to them.

That said, I hope we learn and show up each day to be a voice that let the people in our life know when they need to get their acts together and step up. I also pray that we do not do it in a critical, malicious, or judgmental way. I hope we step up and cheer loudest for the people life places in our path and continue to root for them until they are able to believe and see the greatness that they have on the inside of them. I hope when the pressure is much and it’s hard to see through the tears, we are that calm voice that let the people in our lives know they are doing well, they are the best and they are not their circumstances. I hope we are the people who call out other people’s victory alongside them even when they are having a hard time seeing it in the moment.

Continue to put goodness in the world one life at a time! 💖

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SEASONS CHANGE

Wow it’s been forever and a decade since I last wrote anything on my page. Your girl has been busy with life. I won’t even lie I’ve lived between overwhelming, exhilarating, amazing and just there moments. But in all I couldn’t have asked for a different version of what is my life right now. 😂🙌🏽

That said, a few months ago I moved to a new country and a new city and for a bit i forgot what seasons and changes felt like. I forgot the fuzzy feeling I get when spring makes its entrance and how just moving from winter to spring gives me that renewed hope. Your girl be acting brand new in this streets 😂😂😂

But hey as I walked my way through my not so new city yesterday even though I know spring is been here for a minute I got my message yesterday and I thought I would encourage someone with it. That message is clear from the above picture and it is simple “SEASONS CHANGE”.

I took the picture on the right by myself just yesterday and juxtaposed it with a picture I took in winter. This is the same route and a few months ago all we saw was snow day after day and week after week. The type of snow that make you question what your life purpose is 😂😂😂 now in the present we are experiencing some good spring weather and I can testify to the goodness of the Lord. 🙌🏽🙌🏽

The same way seasons change is the same way we need to look at our situation and circumstances and know for sure that the hard times and dark moments we face are only temporary. We can’t lose our faith just because we don’t see a way out. God is faithful and he won’t let pain and trouble be the only story your life knows. Be encouraged in this moment that every storm eventually runs out of rain and things are going to shift in your favour.

Even when it’s difficult to trace God know that He’s working. For our God is faithful and weeping may endure for a night but joy is going to come in the morning. Don’t give up you are closer than you know.

Stay blessed 🙏🏽

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Does God have a plan for me ??

  

The clouds above your head is so thick, the ground around you so steep and the prayer book that once recorded many ticks for answered prayers seem to not have recorded answers at all in a while. You look up and you look down, you look around you in a bid to find an answer to why nothing seems to be working but all you can come up with is God do you still have plans for me?

Waiting season and dry seasons sometimes are words we use often when we are going through a season of no productivity. “Waiting” this when something is delayed and you have to wait a little bit longer before you get your shot and sometimes you are waiting in just one area in your life but things are still happening in other areas of your life.”Dryness” on the other hand means to be unproductive. It’s a season where nothing is yielding fruit and all the areas of your life is just shut down and nothing is working.Like everyone I know I want to be in season at all times. I want to be productive and I want to make progress but what do you do when you have to wait or even when you are not in the waiting room but you are visited by a dry season.

The divorce is signed, sealed and delivered and you seem lost because now you have to learn how to navigate the scene alone as a single parent and get used to going over every thing by yourself. You’ve watched the bank account go from a few millions or thousands to zero. Your change has become strange. You have submitted resumes and filled out applications till you are left wondering if those mails ever dropped at the right mailbox because if it did then you should have an answer by now. You’ve watched calls from friends and allies drop down from 20 or more calls a day to 5 and now the phone doesn’t even ring save a random irrelevant sales and marketing call from the phone provider. You wake up and everyday you are starring the same situation in the face and you are left wondering…Does God have plans for my life?

If this was a norm then it could be safe to conclude that God and His heavenly armies have gone on vacation from humans but yet you hear people share their testimonies of how God picked them up and how they sort of put heaven on a timer and things worked and this further buttresses the scripture you know all too well…..”He that watches over you does not sleep nor slumber” (Psalm 121:4). But if you go by this dryness then you can be tempted to conclude maybe God isn’t just here for me anymore and the question pops up again….. Does God have a plans for me? 

 It will be okay if you are not serving God because you will be able to conclude that the difference between you and all these other testifiers will have to be the God factor. But wait a minute they pray and you pray, they sow and you sow, they fast and you fast, they speak “it” into the atmosphere and you also do the same but they get result and you don’t get. 

If we are all going to be honest the dry season can play with our minds so much to make us think we are forgotten. But my post today is to encourage you DON’T LOSE HOPE. Before you start to think there is a problem with you and God must definitely have favourites I want you to know God doesn’t have favourites. I mean how could He?? if He’s the God that makes the rain fall on the just and the unjust (Matthew 5:45) and I’m talking rain the showers from heaven that grows our crops and make us have harvest so we don’t go into famine. God gives rain to everybody.That same God is your Father and before you write yourself out of the will by questioning if God still has plans for you then know this Jeremiah 29:11 (for I know the thoughts that I think towards you thoughts of peace and not of evil to give you an expected end) is still in the bible and if there is anything I know for sure the beautiful thoughts you have for yourself can never out weigh the awesome thoughts God has for you. 

Relax God has a plan and He’s got the strategy for your breakthrough. He knew you will be here and He knew you will have this questions but unlike you He’s not lost or confused as to how to change it and turn it around.

Let me quickly highlight below some steps to keep you going while you navigate the waiting room and dry season

1. Walk in alignment with God: stay in agreement with God. God gives us instructions ensure that you are daily following it. Check that you are in the right location God has for your life and by location I don’t just mean “place” I mean “positioning”. Because if the location is wrong the blessing ain’t going to follow. So you have to be sure that you are positioned right in God through Christ. Don’t let what you don’t see dictate how you want to live with God. Let God call the shot no matter what you face.

2. Continue to Pray and Speak the promises: the bible says if the cloud be full it will rain down (Ecclesiastes 11:3). In the same way we say every storm eventually runs out of rain is the same way we can say every full cloud will rain down. But you have to be mindful of what your cloud will rain down. If all you’ve poured up there is negativity that will continue to breed the cycle of negativity. Don’t be the reason why you stay stuck in dryness longer than expected. So get in the word, get your prayers up and speak those promises.

3. Volunteer: most times our thoughts are tormented when we are alone. Get among people, volunteer in church and community activities. Stay active by providing for others what you wish was provided for you. Don’t sit around and wait for a pity party. Get active even if it’s for a couple of hours weekly just painting a smile on someone’s face. Don’t just sit a rounding waiting for a miracle out action to your faith. Even when we think we have no hope left to give I guarantee you we do. Somebody out there needs your smile even if you have to force that smile and paint it on. Even in your broken state never forget that you are still an answer to someone’s prayers. So get up and go be an answer in 2018  

4. Study the Bible: the word you hear has a way of uplifting you and inspiring hope in you so while you navigate the dry season of your life make sure you are getting the right words into you. “Faith” and I mean problem solving faith comes by hearing and hearing the word of God (Romans 10:17). What you hear impacts your thoughts and your thoughts dictate your actions/results. So the solution you require to change the situation can only be found with the God who knows all things. So read the word, whether you are reading alone, or listening from a podcast, a devotional or a book don’t go without studying God’s word.

5. Take it one day at a time: Don’t look at how long you’ve been in the dryness or in the waiting game or how long left you have to go. Just stay focused on one day at a time and ask for the strength to make it through each day. This will help put you in a good mental state that is required for cultivating solutions and even hearing God when He gives you instructions. You need a sound mind to walk through this season so avoid taking on unnecessary worries. Set yourself a self-care plan that helps boost your mental health.

I know the dry season is tough because I’ve been there. I know each day can be a battle and I know giving up looks like the next best thing to do but trust me that isn’t an option because the bible says “He that will come will come and not delay” (Hebrews 10:37). And to answer you heart aching question YES GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE. God and His mega awesome plans for your life is going to arrive and your testimony will help heal other people in your future.

You are never alone. 

Love and Light 

Tosin

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CAPACITY

  
As I stood in my kitchen today doing my regular chores I found my mind straying not to anything in particular and boom the word CAPACITY popped up deep within me. It’s a general word that we hear often and there’s nothing special about it. But as I began to think and ponder that word I started to learn from it. Everyone of us has a capacity. If you take a jar and pour into it the jar will only hold what it has the capacity to contain. 

So basically it’s not all about the amount you are willing to pour into a jar it’s about the amount the jar is built to hold. The amazing thing about humans that makes us different from just any regular jar is that we have the ability to increase our capacity to retain more at different times in our life. So whether it’s love, forgiveness, hope, faith, wealth etc we can’t let ourself be limited to a small capacity. We can determine in our heart that we will do what it takes to increase the capacity we can hold. Because the truth is what we can hold determines what we can give out to bless our world.

When you talk about capacity it’s not just from the dimension of retaining but also from the dimension of giving. If you pour into a pint and a gallon the quantity you get out won’t be the same. You get more product out of the gallon than the pint. In the same way if you pour into pint minded people and expect a gallon supply you will be frustrated because pint minded people will not give at a gallon level. They will pour into you what they have. You can’t give what you don’t have. 

Don’t get frustrated because you are not getting more from certain things or certain people check yourself, check your expectation and check their capacity. Expecting a gallon content from a pint minded person or situation is going to leave you frustrated. If you know you want to give at a gallon capacity you have to be ready to do what it takes to grow yourself from a pint minded person to a gallon minded person where you increase your capacity to hold and in turn you increase the content that you have to bless your world with.

Sometimes some people are giving you the best at the capacity they have but because you want more you forget to check their capacity. You can’t hold people to an unfair expectation that you have of them. Check the capacity and understand the capcity. Don’t frustrate yourself or others by making demands that is more than their capacity. Also if you are a gallon person who continue to pour into something or someone that only has a pint capacity you overwhelm them because they don’t understand why you continue to pour when clearly they can’t contain it anymore don’t waste your time pouring your content into people or things that can’t hold it. 

Don’t cast your pearls before swines. You can’t blame a pint minded person for not understanding you have so much content to pour and they can’t hold the content.It’s not their fault they don’t get it but it will be a waste of your precious time if you continue to pour into containers that are not built to hold your content. Knowing when to walk away or stop pouring is something we all have to learn at some point in our lives. By all means increase your capacity so that you can receive more and give more to your world. But also be wise to know that you can’t give people more than the capacity they are built to retain.

Don’t let pint minded people frustrate you with their pint size thinking. Get yourself surrounded by people who contain and give at your capacity because nothing frustrates more than having miss matched expectations of yourself and of people. Pint size people will only give pint size content don’t let yourself be fooled into thinking you can get more from them or they can hold more. Check the capacity before you pour! Check the capacity before you make a demand.

 Don’t limit yourself to a pint size person when you can grow and increase your capacity in terms of the love, forgiveness, knowledge, hope faith, joy, abundance that you can retain and give.

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CAPACITY

  
As I stood in my kitchen today doing my regular chores I found my mind straying not to anything in particular and boom the word CAPACITY popped up deep within me. It’s a general word that we hear often and there’s nothing special about it. But as I began to think and ponder that word I started to learn from it. Everyone of us has a capacity. If you take a jar and pour into it the jar will only hold what it has the capacity to contain. 

So basically it’s not all about the amount you are willing to pour into a jar it’s about the amount the jar is built to hold. The amazing thing about humans that makes us different from just any regular jar is that we have the ability to increase our capacity to retain more at different times in our life. So whether it’s love, forgiveness, hope, faith, wealth etc we can’t let ourself be limited to a small capacity. We can determine in our heart that we will do what it takes to increase the capacity we can hold. Because the truth is what we can hold determines what we can give out to bless our world.

When you talk about capacity it’s not just from the dimension of retaining but also from the dimension of giving. If you pour into a pint and a gallon the quantity you get out won’t be the same. You get more product out of the gallon than the pint. In the same way if you pour into pint minded people and expect a gallon supply you will be frustrated because pint minded people will not give at a gallon level. They will pour into you what they have. You can’t give what you don’t have. 

Don’t get frustrated because you are not getting more from certain things or certain people check yourself, check your expectation and check their capacity. Expecting a gallon content from a pint minded person or situation is going to leave you frustrated. If you know you want to give at a gallon capacity you have to be ready to do what it takes to grow yourself from a pint minded person to a gallon minded person where you increase your capacity to hold and in turn you increase the content that you have to bless your world with.

Sometimes some people are giving you the best at the capacity they have but because you want more you forget to check their capacity. You can’t hold people to an unfair expectation that you have of them. Check the capacity and understand the capcity. Don’t frustrate yourself or others by making demands that is more than their capacity. Also if you are a gallon person who continue to pour into something or someone that only has a pint capacity you overwhelm them because they don’t understand why you continue to pour when clearly they can’t contain it anymore don’t waste your time pouring your content into people or things that can’t hold it. 

Don’t cast your pearls before swines. You can’t blame a pint minded person for not understanding you have so much content to pour and they can’t hold the content.It’s not their fault they don’t get it but it will be a waste of your precious time if you continue to pour into containers that are not built to hold your content. Knowing when to walk away or stop pouring is something we all have to learn at some point in our lives. By all means increase your capacity so that you can receive more and give more to your world. But also be wise to know that you can’t give people more than the capacity they are built to retain.

Don’t let pint minded people frustrate you with their pint size thinking. Get yourself surrounded by people who contain and give at your capacity because nothing frustrates more than having miss matched expectations of yourself and of people. Pint size people will only give pint size content don’t let yourself be fooled into thinking you can get more from them or they can hold more. Check the capacity before you pour! Check the capacity before you make a demand.

 Don’t limit yourself to a pint size person when you can grow and increase your capacity in terms of the love, forgiveness, knowledge, hope faith, joy, abundance that you can retain and give.

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CAPACITY

  
As I stood in my kitchen today doing my regular chores I found my mind straying not to anything in particular and boom the word CAPACITY popped up deep within me. It’s a general word that we hear often and there’s nothing special about it. But as I began to think and ponder that word I started to learn from it. Everyone of us has a capacity. If you take a jar and pour into it the jar will only hold what it has the capacity to contain. 

So basically it’s not all about the amount you are willing to pour into a jar it’s about the amount the jar is built to hold. The amazing thing about humans that makes us different from just any regular jar is that we have the ability to increase our capacity to retain more at different times in our life. So whether it’s love, forgiveness, hope, faith, wealth etc we can’t let ourself be limited to a small capacity. We can determine in our heart that we will do what it takes to increase the capacity we can hold. Because the truth is what we can hold determines what we can give out to bless our world.

When you talk about capacity it’s not just from the dimension of retaining but also from the dimension of giving. If you pour into a pint and a gallon the quantity you get out won’t be the same. You get more product out of the gallon than the pint. In the same way if you pour into pint minded people and expect a gallon supply you will be frustrated because pint minded people will not give at a gallon level. They will pour into you what they have. You can’t give what you don’t have. 

Don’t get frustrated because you are not getting more from certain things or certain people check yourself, check your expectation and check their capacity. Expecting a gallon content from a pint minded person or situation is going to leave you frustrated. If you know you want to give at a gallon capacity you have to be ready to do what it takes to grow yourself from a pint minded person to a gallon minded person where you increase your capacity to hold and in turn you increase the content that you have to bless your world with.

Sometimes some people are giving you the best at the capacity they have but because you want more you forget to check their capacity. You can’t hold people to an unfair expectation that you have of them. Check the capacity and understand the capcity. Don’t frustrate yourself or others by making demands that is more than their capacity. Also if you are a gallon person who continue to pour into something or someone that only has a pint capacity you overwhelm them because they don’t understand why you continue to pour when clearly they can’t contain it anymore don’t waste your time pouring your content into people or things that can’t hold it. 

Don’t cast your pearls before swines. You can’t blame a pint minded person for not understanding you have so much content to pour and they can’t hold the content.It’s not their fault they don’t get it but it will be a waste of your precious time if you continue to pour into containers that are not built to hold your content. Knowing when to walk away or stop pouring is something we all have to learn at some point in our lives. By all means increase your capacity so that you can receive more and give more to your world. But also be wise to know that you can’t give people more than the capacity they are built to retain.

Don’t let pint minded people frustrate you with their pint size thinking. Get yourself surrounded by people who contain and give at your capacity because nothing frustrates more than having miss matched expectations of yourself and of people. Pint size people will only give pint size content don’t let yourself be fooled into thinking you can get more from them or they can hold more. Check the capacity before you pour! Check the capacity before you make a demand.

 Don’t limit yourself to a pint size person when you can grow and increase your capacity in terms of the love, forgiveness, knowledge, hope faith, joy, abundance that you can retain and give.