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Life and Lessons

Happy Holidays everyone…. I hope we took some time to rest and enjoy the festivities as best as we could given the whole event of 2020.

A week ago, I was at the dental office to take out my wisdom teeth and as the dentist dentists were struggling to get them out, I let the situation speak to me. At the beginning of the year, I had gone for my routine dental appointment as part of what I wanted to do right this year. I realised that I didn’t maximize my dental benefits in the last couple of years because I never went for my appointments……a girl could not be bothered plus I assumed I didn’t have no issues with my teeth at all. Yes, I had some nagging pains every now and again but nothing that was concerning atleast in my opinion.

So, at my initial appointment my dentist highlighted a plan for the year and part of that plan was to take out my upper wisdom teeth. The wisdom teeth had to go ☹ no date was set but I got my instructions. Interestingly this was instrumental for me in setting my intentions. It wasn’t even an intention I set consciously but every time I felt a toothache, I would look in the mirror and tell God that I needed to take the teeth out in the course of the year. I didn’t create a ritual around this and that’s why to me it’s some unconscious intention but now when I look back, I realize that I had several times in the course of the year that I said those words out loud and I can see how even when I wasn’t paying attention I was setting my intentions for what I wanted. It took months before my insurance claims approval came back but interestingly, I got to get the wisdom teeth out before the end of the year. The lesson for me in this was don’t be so fixated on the “how” and “when” keep going and don’t waver just trust that God will make things happen when it should happen.

Last year my upper wisdom teeth wasn’t giving me unbearable issues as a matter of fact I could go on several months or even years prior without feeling any kind of pain but any time I would feel pain it was quite unbearable. I asked the dentist why the wisdom teeth had to go and if I don’t extract them it shouldn’t matter those where my lines of questioning lol…. The dentist told me they were not of any use to me and they will continue to grow because the set below them was missing so nothing will stop the ones at the top from growing further and it will cause me issues in the long run. There was no lie in all that was said because months down the line while waiting for insurance approval one of the teeth broke and I was also told I had cavity in both. My wisdom teeth belonged in my mouth they made my dentition complete but the fact that something has been in your life for so long just taking up space and causing you occasional pain doesn’t mean you leave them there without evaluating their usefulness. There are so many things we hold on to that we should be letting go off.

On the day of the extraction, with every pressure I felt my mind was set on the relief that was going to come, knowing that I won’t be waking up to tooth ache caused by my wisdom teeth again I endured the pressure and afterwards the pain that came with the extraction. In life we need to always count our cost and remove from our life things that are just occupying space so that we can free ourselves of some unnecessary shackles. Let’s be honest yanking anything off whether a bad habit, an unproductive relationship, leaving our comfort zone or moving on from a dead-end job is not going to come painless but we need to cut unnecessary attachment to stuff that’s occupying space without any real added value.

Don’t be so addicted to deadweight that you decide to stay loyal to it under the guise of “it doesn’t bother me”. Be brutally honest with yourself set you intentions for a better you whatever that looks like and face the deadweight with every sense of honesty and take steps to let it fall off. You can’t travel with a bag load of chaff and lie to yourself that you have a bag full of gold. If you want gold you need to go find it and be intentional about finding it. Gold in this context is metaphorical and it means anything that’ll bring you joy and spark the fire in you.

As we push forward into another new year take a good look at yourself ask yourself pertinent questions set your intentions on what you want, if there are things that need to leave even if you think they are not a discomfort now but you know they are holding you back from being a better version of yourself then you need to trust your life in God’s hands and be ready to put the work in to uproot and let go. God will always meet us at the point of obedience don’t hold on to anything longer than you should especially when they are not serving you in any way. There’s a lot of freedom waiting on the other side of letting go.

You deserve to be the best version of yourself that you were created to be. Declutter and travel light.

Love & Light

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Keep TWEAKING it!

Working in 2020 looks a lot different from what it was less than a year ago. This year has required some type of adjustments from us humans. At the start of Covid-19 it became apparent that I needed to start facilitating online workshops and somehow, I got everything right but couldn’t get my lighting issue right. This bothered me and lot, I played around with different settings and I even contemplated spending additional money to get a new lamp just to add additional light to my workstation so that I can have a well-lit background for my online sessions.

After several months of thinking about it but ignoring it I decided over the weekend to rearranged my workstation and bam it clicked….. my sitting position has been backing the light and my lamp was positioned on the side and even though I had enough light in the area I needed to make some adjustments to maximize the effect. The little adjustment of repositioning my lamp was all I needed to make to change everything. I did not need to spend any additional money for anything or do any major change to my workstation.

What this lesson taught me is that sometimes the answer we need to help us move up and start operating on a different level is hidden in plain sight and if we are not living in the moment and operating at a level of mindfulness we may miss what we need to get the result that we want.

Secondly, you can decide to stay in the same spot because you feel helpless and you feel like change will cost so much and instead of making the little adjustment you decide to continue to live with a mediocre version of your dream when all you need to do is tweak a  bit and you will unlock your next level. Don’t stay the same because you feel you can’t afford what the price tag that change presents.

I learn majorly from little things like this. This lesson brought perspective and also taught me yet again never to settle for less when I’m made for more. I don’t know what you need to tweak… it may be the business idea, it may be your exercise routine, it may be your diet, it may be your willingness to stand out of your own way… don’t be afraid to make the little adjustments that may end up making a big difference in your life.

You may not have all the answers you need to make your adjustments but don’t box yourself into believing what you have right now is the best version of you. Be open minded enough to tweak as you go in life.

Love & Light ❤

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Empowered in the WAITING

We live in such fast world now and the word “waiting” is beginning to sound alien to many. We want what we want, and we want it now. Social media isn’t even making things better with all that we are bombarded with daily. People never talk so much about their grind and grit or the bts of their journey, but we see posts that shows a lot of balling it out and luxurious lavish living. Giving off the impression that this sort of life was achieved overnight.

This is not to say that people need to explain how long they’ve had to wait or what they’ve had to endure to get what they have. But there should be an unspoken caveat for everyone scrolling through social media posts and feeds that reads “it’s OK to scroll and enjoy this posts but it’s not OK to compare your real life with someone else’s highlight reels that never tells a complete story”. Having this at the back of your mind will guard your heart against comparison that robs you of joy while you are in your waiting season.

The waiting process for anything in this life can be a lot whether it’s us waiting on the right partner, to get a job or change jobs, to get a promotion or to have a baby. Waiting requires patience and trust that there is a process to everything and there is capacity building going on in our lives preparing us to be able to handle what we say we deserve.

While we wait on our greenlight, to ensure that we are waiting well and building ourselves in the process there are a few things to consider on this journey of purposeful waiting:

Gratitude: we can complain from now till the end of ages about how nothing is working in our life or we can switch it up and take a long hard look at our life and show gratitude for those things that are working. Gratitude fills us with peace and centers us in ways that complaining never will. With gratitude our heart becomes open and readily able to see possibilities and potential opportunities. Cultivating a heart of gratitude when nothing is working will take a lot of practice. Every day make up your mind to look for one thing to be grateful about and write it down. This would become your pick me up on days when it’s really hard to see anything to be grateful for. You can create for yourself a gratitude jar or journal for this activity. If you can’t see an open door, make up your mind to praise God in the hallway.

Be open minded: while you wait don’t assume that you’ve seen it all and you know it all. This is the time to learn new things to broaden your perspective. This is your time to network with different people. We only get results based on our level of revelation and exposure. There are some ideas for your progress that will not come if you are not open minded enough to meet people and face situations that will challenge your old ways of thinking. Somebody you meet, an article you read or a training you attend while in your waiting can equip you with the answers you’ve been looking for to solve some problems you are facing. Don’t do yourself a disservice by holding on to your own point of view alone.

Don’t rush the process: While you may be itching to get out of a job or find the right partner or get that promotion don’t rush the process. If a door isn’t open yet there is every possibility that what you need to dominate your next level, you have not yet unlocked on this level. Give yourself time and be patient in whatever season you are in. Don’t get so upset or have your ego so bruised because of what is not working out that you settle for less than you deserve.

Waiting can be hard but if there is anything I know so well, it is that all good things will eventually come and in time you will understand that there was purpose in the waiting.

Don’t give up hang in there and know that I’m part of the people in your corner rooting for your success.

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Dealing with REJECTION

The word rejection is not a new word and it is not new territory to anyone. Whether it is the fact that you were not picked for the job or the date didn’t call back after you felt everything went well, or you were overlooked for the promotion. There isn’t one person walking the face of this earth that has not felt the sting of rejection and the disappointment that comes with being overlooked for something that was so important and that you felt you deserved.

It can cut deep but rejection is not the end of the story because better is always in our future regardless of how we feel in the moment. As I sat down this morning with the feeling of gratitude and contentment, I appreciated my own growth over the years, and I would like to share some tips to help you deal with rejection:

Acceptance: For us to heal the first thing we will always have to do is to accept the situation. Don’t try to gloss over it or push it aside. Accept the situation for what it is, embrace it and get up from it. We don’t heal from what we don’t accept. Acceptance is your first step to moving forward. We can’t live in denial and act like we didn’t hurt in the process. For it to be termed rejection it meant something to us to start with. So, accept things for what they are and move on from it.

Mindset: This is an important aspect; we need to do a mindset check every now and again. There is a belief that we reproduce in real life what we think about. If you are dealing with a constant bout of rejection, it’s time to check your thought pattern to know what you are constantly looping. If you always have the mindset that good things don’t come to you, you are not good enough, everyone gets it but you and you find yourself rolling this reel of negativity, it’s time to fix your mindset. This will take a lot of work because there’s a root cause for this kind of mindset. Don’t be afraid to face your mindset and work to break patterns of negative thoughts so that you can start seeing different results in your life.

Let go and embrace the next adventure: After you have accepted and addressed your mindset you need not internalize rejection. Always know that what is meant for you will find you and what you missed would not have been able to fill you up. Let it go and believe yours is coming. Go out there and be ready to face the next adventure with open hands and heart.

Be Positive: Know that you are ENOUGH. Whether your rejection came from a job you din’t get even though you interviewed well, a relationship break-up, or a promotion you didn’t get. Know this, you are built right for the right opportunities and you have all it takes to win and excel. Forgive the people who overlooked you and know that you are enough for the right person, job, or promotion. A better door is in your future and great things are still on the way to you. Stay positive and don’t give up.

Rejection can be painful and make you second guess your significance but don’t ever feel like a failure take the lessons you have learned and continue on your grind because one day you will look back and be thankful for all the times you felt the sting of rejection. Use everything to build yourself into a better version of you.

Everything will work together for good!

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I’m ZOOOOOMED OUT

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It’s interesting that with quarantine which is meant to isolate us and give us more “me” time the world managed to invent a new avenue to have us bombarded whether it’s by work meetings or by people who just feel like they need to release content on all social media platform and we need to learn some more.

At the initial start of the whole lockdown your girl realised she had some time on her hand 🤣and she was ready to get on that whole “learn something new” train that was moving and making us believe that if we don’t come out with content or products by the time quarantine was over we might as well count ourselves failures.

Listen i’m no lazy human and i look out for ways to learn and also improve and develop myself. I’m startegic and i prioritize my personal development. But this time we are not home on a vacation we are dealing with a pandemic and we all deal differently and it’s important to remember to show grace to ourselves on days when we just can’t take it. Nobody has been down this road before and we are all taking it one day at a time with the help of God.

At the start, your girl was always clicking on IGLive and i was receiving links upon links to several zoom meetings to attend, catching up on myriad of messages on whatsapp group chats then to add onto this work kinda had their own team meetings on a daily. When i say it was crazy it was crazy. 😣

This got me thinking about life and how we allow ourselves to be bombarded with commitment to others and things that don’t even serve us just because we let ourselves believe we can’t say NO or we are just not a good steward of our own time. We get so committed to the motions that we start to lose ourselves and we start neglecting our self-care.

One of the biggest gift you will ever give yourself on a daily basis is the gift of spending time with yourself.💗 I mean really seeing yourself for you. You need to get to the point where you drop everything and just sit with yourself. Even if you get one hour everyday to say no to everything else and pick yourself you will gain a lot from this. God has shown us grace and it’s important that we bask in that grace and show ourselves grace.

I’m grateful work finally figured out a way to not have everyday team meetings and also your girl scrolls past any IG live or zoom link that’s not within my alloted scheduled time for external things. It’s okay to let people do what they do and you miss out without having any FOMO.

Don’t lose yourself trying to be everything to all people. Look after yourself and show yourself grace everyday.

Continue to stay safe.

Love & Light! 💖