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Goodbye 2013 …You were so good to me!!!

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No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead …Bible Phil 3:13

It’s been an awesome year no doubt about that, so much to be thankful for,so much memories to cherish and definitely some things to forgive in people,places and above all in ourselves. We made it this far by grace only.
As it’s my custom I did a final combing through my personal development plan today I’ve been at it for about a month just taking stock and checking how far I have come. This is not in comparison with anybody but in comparison with myself. Outdoing my past is what I’m about and every year I aim at being an improved version of myself.
Looking back I see there were some areas I can boldly say I did good at and went so high on the scoreboard, there were some I didn’t do as well as I would have loved to do and there were some I couldn’t even score *covers eyes*. Years back I would be beating myself up over the many things I didn’t get finished or the many mistakes i made, many shortcomings and the many promises broken. As I take a journey down memory lane today I am thankful instead I am not beating myself up over things this isn’t to say that i’m not concerned that I didn’t get it all right at every point but this is to tell me I have lived through the good,the not so good and the coulda!woulda !!shoulda!!!.
If there’s anything I have learnt about drawing a Personal Development Plan for myself it is the fact that I should allow room for even my short comings for all of the things I did not achieve makes all the ones I achieved worth it and makes me know I still have so much to aspire to. I’ve learnt to accept that all the things I see is happening for me and every single day is a good day to start afresh and get it right. The journey to personal development isn’t flawless and the fact that you did not tick all ur boxes 100% doesn’t mean you are not on track or you are not developing. Those things I didn’t achieve gives me a reason to push further in the new year with more tenacity and determination to get it right and be the best me there is.
So today, in this moment I recommend we do only one thing let go of the mistakes. Let us remain thankful for the things we got right. Going forward into 2014 let us ensure that where we fell in 2013 will be our highest rising point in 2014. Don’t let the fact that you stumbled or didn’t finish the way you would have loved cause you to give up your journey to becoming the most effective and efficient you because you. The good news is you are still in the race and you can still make everyday count for something GREATER,something MORE and something MONUMENTAL than what you settled for in 2013. Rise up and put your best foot forward and be present in 2014.
Get the note pad out write out what you want to achieve and what you want to see of yourself. We can be all we dream of if we don’t let other people’s vision or our own moments of weakness steal the strength in our pursuit.
We are made for more but we won’t get it if we don’t go after it. Set you goals in 2014 don’t just write them down and go to sleep do something no matter how little every single day. You will make it only if you don’t give up on yourself.
I’m a firm believer in the fact that people are always instrumental to our pursuit. They teach us, they help us,they hurt us and build us all at the same time. To the many people who I have in my corner this year, people who saw the sincerity of my heart even when my action could have been deemed faulty, people who fought for me even when I didn’t deserve a chance to those who whispered words of hope when I thought my faith was not strong enough to carry me through,to friends who became family and to family who doubled as friends,to the people who sheltered me when life rain poured so bad as I made my journey through 2013. To those who whispered words to strengthen my tenacity when I was too fragile and wanted to quit. I say a big thank you. I wouldn’t be here today if you didn’t believe in me and if you didn’t care enough.
To God most High I’m thankful for the opportunities you sent my way in 2013, thankful for the battle you equipped me to fight and win. I’m always shocked every single day how you believe I will weather some things. Your forgiveness found my patched soul when I was too weak to help myself. This life can’t thank you enough.
With faith in me and with Jesus joy I head into 2014 a future that seem so far some years ago. So, here’s to all the friends, opportunity, growth, development and fun that awaits. Let’s make every moment in 2014 count.

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Top 5 Words to Delete from Your Vocabulary

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Words are powerful. Sometimes we say things and we don’t even know they are limiting us or stoping us from taking action that move us forward in life. In my personal development journey this week I promise myself I will make a conscious effort to check the words that I’m speaking over my life and into the things around me. I hope you do the same too.

………. It’s who you are that makes the DIFFERENCE ❤️

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Wisdom from BROKEN PIECES

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When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 1 cor 13:11 (NIV) bible
Wisdom speaks in everything you have to be ready to listen ….Timi Pudie
Don’t ever give up on yourself or your dreams or your destiny. Don’t let a (bad) moment become a lifetime. Don’t get stuck in life. There’s more peace, more joy, more victory…..Lisa Osteen Comes
The broken pieces of our dreams do not just cause great pain they do more than that,they bring with then INVALUABLE WISDOM and teach us great life lessons that we couldn’t have learnt otherwise. These lessons open us up more, causes us to pay close attention to our core values and beliefs, matures us, shows us wisdom to deal and help us relate better with the larger world and the people in it.
One of the most valuable lesson we learn from our broken pieces is LETTING GO, not building a monument around any moment, events or persons. My broken pieces matured me and helped shape the way i view experiences, they taught me how to relate to new experiences without looking from a tainted glass. Through my broken pieces i understood what it is to fight fair and play for keeps. I understood that we are not defined by failure and we don’t let failure get the better of our heart. I also learnt how to react appropriately with success without letting success get to my head. I learnt that because it’s broken doesn’t mean it can’t be fixed but sometimes you’re are best leaving it broken because starting over is just the best option to take.
My broken pieces also taught me an invaluable lesson about people. When people tell you who they are you have to believe them, don’t try to carve out another definition for them or look for deeper ways to read the script they play out. We all know ourselves better so take the version they tell you ( through words or action) and roll with it. If you can’t build something worthwhile on the version of them they give off then keep it moving staying around too long will only be a waste of your time and theirs and there’s no dignity in such. Maturity helps us understand that people change when they want to and not when you want them to. It takes collaboration between them and the only higher source (GOD) to change. Value people and accept them for who they are and what they’ve told you, love them regardless but define your stand so nobody is making your life their ‘chillout’ spot where they hang out without no real commitment to making you a better person.
When people want out, give that to them without trying to reason their exit with them. It’s what they want and it’s what they get. I remember an ex wanting out and even though I gave the out easily I was upset he didn’t pay me a visit when I heard he came to my city. Really childish but trust me that never happened again with anyone because I got better and knew better so i was able to deal with people’s exit out of my life without reading any meaning to it or putting myself down for failing in relationships that i thought should work. For the most part most of us often think people will remember all the fun and good times and they’ll reconsider but that’s not always the case,maturity and wisdom will explain to you that when people want to go they want to go and if you really do love them and value yourself you let them go, not partially but permanently.
People wanting an exit is hard to deal with and most times one of the reasons this may be hard is because we think their leaving means we are losing but truth be told when people leave you DON’T LOSE ANYTHING. Be clear on one thing your future isn’t tied to those who want out of your life. Their job is done let them go. They are the past and ain’t no future in. It’s doesn’t make them the villain in your life story and it doesn’t make you a loser or a bad person either. It just means in the here and now they are better off with others and you are destined for greater things too with another person/people. Your story will still be colourful because God wrote it so. Learn the lessons so you can do better next time you get a chance at love or friendship.
Don’t be too hard on yourself when you fall short especially when you know you did all you knew how to do. When we know better we do better. Ain’t nobody perfect we are all work in progress and you need to know that all the things you call failures are just your pile of experiences to help you move free and soar higher in life and also to help another person save time on their life’s journey. Let this truth guide your heart your peace is bigger than your pain, your life mission is far larger than your mistakes. Don’t let the broken pieces silence you or kill your dreams. Paint your canvas and hold on to God because you are not finished yet you are just about starting.
Life is all lessons may we keep the lessons and grow into an improved version of ourselves everyday. May we do better, be better, think better, love better regardless of what we’ve seen or heard. May we not let our broken pieces cast a shadow on our hope robbing us of the joy of trying one more time. May we always come back swinging with faith that our dreams are still possible. May we always remember that we are who we are (UNIQUE) and nobody can take that away from us. May we forever give ourselves room to mature and continue to dream. May we always show up when our opportunities call. May we believe we are made for more and a broken piece shouldn’t define our journey.Our dreams don’t end because we were broken our dreams end when we give up fighting. Keep going we are MORE THAN CONQUERORS.
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I heart the D.A.M.S.E.L (s)

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I recently sat back and wondered when we damsels became too soft. At what point did we lose ourselves, our voice, our right to freedom and our liberty to rock our God given life in style to the praise of our God who is our first love and our Lord. I have read a lot of stories recently and heard a lot of things that make me look back at the feminine gender and wonder where we are getting it wrong. We hear of damsels all around the world taking their own lives because an important figure bailed on them. We hear of damsels all around the world sucking up to domestic violence because they are too afraid to find their voice or too afraid to ride alone forgetting lonely and alone are separate things. We hear of damsels around giving up on beautiful God given destiny because there is a twist on their happiness, most times settling for the immediate instead of holding out for the promise. Being a woman is synonymous to strength, it’s not a curse or a call to timidity but I think too many times us sisters around the world fall for the cliché “you can’t go too far without me”, “you are a weaker vessel so I’m boss of you” and many more cliché( fill in the space). We are strong women who have the power to steer faith, life, love and freedom for this generation and the next. We are emotional beings but emotions don’t trump reasoning and each time we allow this to happen we put ourselves in compromising situations and abuse the Makers (God) order.

Definitely a lot of damsels have been down the dark alleys of heartbreak at several times (if u haven’t thumbs up, you made it unscarred) and I get that it hurts when a supposed significant other bails because they think they have a life to live that does not accommodate you and your baggage. Sister it doesn’t matter the baggage -health, education, family et al whoever bails on you now will bail eventually it’s a matter of “when” not “if”. Their bailing isn’t about what you are or what you are not it’s about them and their choices so why go down because of their choice. Won’t you rather they bail now than blame you in the future for being the reason they are not living their dreams, that’ll be too much guilt and burden to carry. Truth be told not everyone will make it through your life book so don’t attach lifetime commitment to someone who is only a character in act 1 scene 1. They’ve played their part be strong and let it go.

We see damsels choose the addiction over liberty because they think they are beyond redemption. They give up and conclude if happiness was meant to find them, then it should have come by the 1st coach/train/bus in the early hours. You are not beyond redemption, truth is help came but somehow we were too busy to see and because it did not come wearing the colour we wanted, it was hard to recognise. Help is closer than the next person you see and HE (God) is still reaching out to help, just ask.

We see sisters fall cheaply to be number 2 choice, letting someone date them on the hush hush down low when they have the same right to- a walk down the aisle, a last name, a love that deserves to be on full blast for all to see and a happy ever after to a unique love story. Why hurt yourself and another damsel because you think you don’t have a right to your own clear path.The next time you intend to cause another damsel pain by taking their man think about the pain you’ll feel if that was you and just have this at the back of your mind -what you are doing might be the reason another damsel is gonna take the knife, find the bottles in pursuit of happiness, walk in the dark with a tainted definition of trust that becomes a burden they carry and the reason they miss opportunities- do unto others what you’ll have done to you. Life is a chain reaction let’s not be the one that starts a cycle that ruin others.

We are bound together by our strength, our pain and our experiences, so damsel the next time you decide to lie about that scar to cover up domestic violence and die in silence remember your courage to share and open up is your key to your liberty and the only help another damsel gets to make the right choice, so PLEASE speak up and speak the truth when we ask you about the scar because your living serves the sisterhood than your death. Whatever is coverered is not healed and that becomes a weak point the enemy uses to destroy us.

Don’t look for your happiness in one person it’s too much power to give to another and you get disappointed when you attach divinity responsibility to humans. We were sent to this world complete with everything that was meant to push us forward locked within us not outside; the task is to always reach out for our Maker for he holds the key to unlock our individuality. People are in our lives to compliment us, only God completes us make no mistake about that.

That you are living right and finding your happiness in the simple things of life is not saying you are checking out on the people in your life, it just means you are checking in on you, and in that way you won’t lose sight of what defines you. Don’t go after the bottles, the knife, the ropes and don’t suffer in silence you have other damsels you can talk to. Let’s not give up too soon if someone bails look at it this way- if mama killed herself after the 1st heartbreak she won’t meet papa and we won’t have you here to add your bright damsel colours to complete our unique damsel puzzle.

Find your voice damsel and go after what makes you whole. Believe in yourself and in your right to a happy ever after story God divinely mapped for you. Good things come to those who believe they deserve them. Damsels let’s make a choice to be strong and continue to find strength and our greatest happiness in our Lord bearing in mind that for every victory and right choice we make another damsel sees the light and finds the strength to live a happy life. Our walking is the reason why another damsel is empowered to jump and fly.

We need to take care of number 1(you) if we’ll be any use in helping our husbands, brothers, boyfriends & children find their happiness and be all God wants them to be. You can’t give what you don’t have and to get something you have to believe you deserve it. Go damsel chase after your Lord and go get what belongs to you. – Your happiness and peace of mind.

To all my purpose driven D.A.M.S.E.L (Daring Amiable Motivated Sisters Enjoying Life) who I know, who I talk to and to those I won’t see on this side of eternity but who are connected to me through facebook and twitter, whose life story is an inspiration to the next woman. We are God’s damsel (s) no matter where we’ve been or what we’ve done. I HEART YOU.

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YES………….The tide turns

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I love the fact that I can learn from the seasons. In the same way seasons change life also changes. I look out today to a blue sky and a sunny day but I go back months and I can remember the cloudy days,dark nights and cold winter nights of December.Where autumn was just in my dreams and summer was just a longing in my heart. I sit here in the sun, colourful flowers around and beautiful faces doing their thing…….. oh I love summer.
Just the same way you live in different seasons, life presents some winter moments where dreams seem to be dead, responsibilities seem to weigh you down and heaven seem to be quiet. You wake up and you long for quiet days and moments that can only be describe by the autumn season of september and the beautiful colours of a summer’s day. Your heart longs for those moment when you heard God’s voice so clear, those moment before time froze and your heart was left to find its way in the cold lonely nights.
I understand in theory we are able to deal with seasons because we know exactly when it’ll be over but life is different because it just plays out without a weather forcast. In facing life, truth be told you can’t quit, you’ve got to be audacious like Abraham who stayed his cause and who did not tip toe around God’s promise by asking cautiously skeptical question but plunged into the promise and came up strong, ready for God, sure that God will make good on what He has said (Romans 4:20 & 21 msg).
Through the rain, cold winter & dark nights of life, keep holding on and don’t dare give up. “It might be so cold and dark on the outside but make sure you keep the sun shining on your inside for if you lose within you lose without. There’s no battle won on the outside that wasn’t first won within.”
Keep your faith in God because that’s what stands even when all else fails.Keep holding through all the questions in your heart. Don’t pack up in winter because the winter is not all there is, stay strong you were born to weather every storm and thrive through every season.
To answer your heart question………….. Yes…….. The tide turns and the seasons change.

Keep thriving.

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Note to SELF!!!

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The woman I become is strengthened by the things I believe & the things I fight. Contrary to popular opinion I am not everywoman cos our God has cut for each of us a path similar yet so distinct.
The pain of my past makes mockery of the faith I profess and dares me to sing the redemptive song, the circumstances I face challenges the voice of hope so tiny but yet powerful.
Without question I walk my path and sing the redemptive song for the redemptive song is for always and hope ……..yes hope shines so bright and makes today good and tomorrow very colourful and beautiful.
I put my hand on its switch cos I know that no matter how dark the night, the presence of light dispels the dark, so yes I’m singing all the way and my hand is on the switch of hope.

Keep believing.Good things find its way to those who believe they deserve it.

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We are better CONNECTED.

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Me myself and I mentality is something we are familiar with. We want to be left alone, we hang the “do not disturb sign” everyday for 365 days and we fly solo just doing our own stuff. God knew we will get to this point of self sufficient mentality which is not in line with His way of thinking about our existence as humans hence He illustrated by His actions when He was going to create man the hallmark of His creation, He said Let us………. God created every other thing just by speaking them into existence without having any consultation but He knew to create something that will stand out as a MASTERPIECE of His work there needs to be a connection and an agreement that involved all of the Godhead. Through His action God showed that to birth something extraordinary you need to be in connection and in agreement and if this is the case why do we think we can get far flying solo?
Individually we can build something but if we partner together with God and connect with the people he brings in our lives then we can go farther than our individual energy can carry us. For where one individual’s creativity ends is where another person’s begins. We are blessed individually with different gifts and talents that can only produce to the capacity of one but when we bring our talents and gifts together, like a firework we spark and create extraordinary colours.
In today’s world people hire those who can work as part of a team because it’s a known fact that together: the burden is lighter, we create winning moments, the journey is more interesting and we fly higher. I know about being scared to let others in, truth be told our greatest and most rewarding moments will come through people and so also will our worst moments  but for the sake of the great destiny placed in our hands which is impossible to birth solo we have to put yesterday behind us and make bold to trust again.
It takes faith to connect with people and you will be connecting with the wrong person if you  don’t connect first to your source(God). For it is God who made us and gave us the assignment  and He knows those who are meant to go on the journey so we have to put our faith in Him first and put our hands in His and He will direct our path.
My life compass (Bible) makes it clear that on my own i can chase a thousand but when i join forces with another we will chase ten thousand. We can only go so far individually. We were not created to fly solo we are better connected to our source (God) and to the people He brings our way. 
Keep Living, Loving and Learning. Stay Connected.
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THE PURSUIT…………..

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Life is a beautiful journey and in all we do we need to pursue EXCELLENCE and give our very best every single day. There will be times we don’t measure up but we shouldn’t bury ourselves or write ourselves off. In order to grow and move forward we must learn from every experience and set ourselves goals that stretch us in our PURSUIT…………..

Today i stand

from the shackles that held me bound
A Phoenix out of ashes
An eagle that has no other mission 
but to soar
Running with Passion
not to prove anybody wrong 
but to prove the voices of limitation
from my past wrong
Cos those are the only enemy to my PURSUIT
I may not make the free throw the first time
and i may not fully understand what it is
to be my own shooting guard at life’s game
  
But I’ll keep working on my throws
I’ll keep aiming for the net
and I’ll keep fine tuning my skills
if today i don’t get it
tomorrow I’ll stand again on life’s court
I’ll make the throws again
with all sense of precision
this time I’m going to be shooting straight
into the net
When i make the net and I’m certain I WILL
God on my side this is not gonna be a one off
or the end of making  precise throws
Because I’m going to always 
stage a COMEBACK
that reveals a better me.

Pursue excellence in all things and you’ll find that happiness will not be far from you.Live life on purpose and trust God above all else.

You will MAKE IT.

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Don’t Change the Song!!!

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It’s a New Year and i know we all entered this year with a song of hope and faith. With our head held high and with faith locked in our hearts we decided we will start afresh and continue to hold on despite all that life threw in our corner in 2010. As you journey along it is true that the new will become old. Somehow you become complacent and slide back into the former ways of doing things and somehow the prayer request written 1st January seem to be taking too long to manifest. I just want to encourage you that no matter what you see or how it looks DON’T CHANGE YOUR SONG!!.I believe without a shadow of doubt that this will be one year to remember for good  but as the word of God says only those who believe to the end will be saved. Don’t let what people will say or are already saying change the song of hope you have. Let our God be true. You are more than you know and He has great plans for you this year and beyond.
Have a fabulous 2011. Live,Love,Learn and don’t let circumstances change your song.
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