You alone are enough… You have nothing to prove to anybody~Maya Angelou

I wrote this piece a while back and I’ve always revisited it each time I have a  day that I sort of struggle with accepting myself and all of my goodness. There are days we are as high as a rocket and we believe we can take on the world and there are some days when we all struggle a little bit to accept that we are enough.

We look for definitions, labels, tags and people’s opinion or affirmation to prove to us that we are enough. We wait on people around us to hand us some piece of hope and we get upset each time their picture doesn’t seem to depict that they think big for us.

“Forget about the little they saw or still see for you. You are capable of seeing bigger for your life. Don’t blame them for not seeing big enough for your destiny.

You can’t let other people’s blurry picture determine your own vision. You are capable of painting your own super-sized picture and going after it. It’s never about them it’s all about you. 

Don’t lose the ONE VOTE and the ONE VOICE that matters most while chasing after thousands of opinions. You can win all by yourself but you’ve got to believe you deserve it. You’ve got to believe it in yourself and want it for yourself. Nobody can hand you what you deserve you have to see it first and get up and go get it.

Don’t let anybody deceive you…. YOU are all you need plus your faith in God. Even when they don’t think you are and even when you struggle to believe it or when you don’t think you are…… Best believe it…….

YOU ARE ENOUGH”.

You will make it. 

We see people find their dreams daily.

We hear stories of how their tenacity and resilience paid off.

We hear people relay how they almost gave up but somehow managed one more step, one more phone call, one more meeting, one more application and one more appointment.

It’s not a coincidence that people walk into their purpose or find dreams after several attempts, what makes the difference in the stories we hear or witness is these people didn’t let their weary heart scream louder than their faith and resolve to always give their pursuit one more shot. People who find their dreams are those who didn’t give up even when all they did was crawl.They kept going even when the darkness didn’t seem like it will give way to the light or when they didn’t think their pot of gold laid beautifully at the rainbows end.

It’s indeed interesting to know that when people finally find their dreams for the most part they paraphrase the details of their struggle making it look like their dream just happened without them having to sweat it or work too hard for it.

Most of the people who we look at cruising the freeway and living their dreams probably had their fair share of disappointment and probably received “NO” a thousand and one times more than they expected. Can’t blame anyone for focusing on their light and don’t crucify them for keeping details of their waiting room experience when they were so unsure things will change or if they will ever move from the sidewalk to the freeway.

People may never share their behind the scenes details but that shouldn’t make you feel cast off when life makes it feel like you are the only one crawling to find your purpose. Don’t let the highlights of anyone’s life make you feel like a failure.

It’s never a crime to admire people’s accomplishment and success but it becomes an issue if you let people’s life make you feel less worthy or make you feel like crawling isn’t a form of progress.

So, today in this moment if all you are doing in the pursuit of your purpose can only be summed up as crawling….. EMBRACE THE CRAWL because the type of step doesn’t matter as long as you are making progress and advancing.

There will be days when you’ll walk, run, jump and eventually fly to your purpose and see your dreams play out like a moment on the silver screen. It’s important that you resolve not to give up at the crawling phase. The best is yet to come but if you give up because all you see looks like crawling the sidelines when the whole world seem to be cruising the freeway without traffic lights….. You just might be giving up too soon.

In this moment you may just be so close to rising and what feels like your “forever crawl moment” may just be the last lap before you walk right into your spot.

Hang in there and embrace every phase, hold on in faith for the crawl is not all there is to your journey to purpose. You will touch your stars and find your dreams and like others you admire…..you will step into your own light and make it to the freeway.

Don’t you DARE GIVE UP. KEEP CRAWLING IF THAT’S WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO TO KEEP MAKING PROGRESS. 

WE ONLY WIN WHEN WE DON’T QUIT.

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The real winners in life are the people who look at every situation with an expectation that they can make it work or make it better. –Barbara Pletcher

There is no medicine like hope, no incentive so great and no tonic so powerful as expectation of something better tomorrow~Orison Swett Marden

Happy New Year readers!!

So the old is out and here comes the new. Some already know what to do with the new and some are still choosing to be spectators waiting on the side lines and not ready to play. They’ve been hurt in the past so they tell themselves it’s not worth it to expect anything from the new. Life is always the same,things don’t change and Greatness is meant for a selected few, these are some of the lies people have come to believe.

As we journey into the new year I would have myself believe this year is not a sequel to last year and I always drum it into myself “yesterday ended last night”. So don’t take the baggage of yesterday or last year with yourself. Quit lying to yourself that all there is for your life is all you already see.

People always say when you don’t expect nothing you don’t get disappointed…. But We can’t buy that. Not having an expectation tells me that one is settling for an ordinary life. A life void of passion and pursuit. A life where you carry on with the same way of life and never challenge yourself to be more or do more in your generation.

Why should you have an EXPECTATION

1. Expectation builds a desire in you and gives you something to look forward to;
An intense anticipation itself transforms possibility into reality; our desires being often but precursors of the things which we are capable of performing~Samuel Smiles
Your expectation for good and better creates in you a desire and a picture to look forward to. When you have an expectation for something good you believe that change is possible and you believe you are capable of birthing that change. You believe that your life and what you see now is not all there is, you believe there is more you can achieve on your job, in your business, for your family and above all for yourself. Because you have an expectation of something more and something better for your life your desire for change heightens and you are ready to work for your change, speak for your change, pray for your change and even give for change. Not having an expectation is simply saying to yourself you have no desire for better, nothing to look forward to, you have accepted the status quo and you don’t think there’s much that you can do any longer.. You can’t let that be you this year.

2. It creates a hunger for achievement in you…
When you expect great things and you are so consumed with passion for the picture of the better life you see, you have the desire to want to do more and give nothing short of your best. Having an expectation creates in you an hunger for pursuit. Because you have an expectation for something to work in your favour you will get up and be an active participant instead of sitting round waiting for a by and by and some magic wand to change the course of your life. And like Henry Thoreau put it “you learn to reawaken and keep yourself awake, not by mechanical aid but by an infinite expectation of the dawn”.

3. For better assessment of your progress…
When you have an expectation for your year you are able to assess if what you are doing in this moment is moving you in the direction of your bigger picture. For instance if you have an expectation for a better wage at the end of each month you will know where to focus your energy either to look for a higher paying job, further your education or get a business alongside your current employment. But when you don’t have an expectation you are not hoping for anything so you might not know if you are stuck or you are moving in a direction that will serve your greater purpose.

Give yourself a chance to grow and change this year. Raise your expectation and be realistic with your goals. Don’t build a monument around past disappointment. Don’t let yesterday’s disappointment be your excuse to stay stuck in neutral choosing to walk life sidelines when you have all it takes to be an active participant in the game of life. Dig your heels in, expect something big to happen in your life. If you don’t expect nothing you get nothing. Raise your expectation this year and expect the best of yourself and then do what is necessary to make it a reality.

Stay positive and expect big of yourself and for yourself in 2014.

We are more than a CONQUEROR.

No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead …Bible Phil 3:13

It’s been an awesome year no doubt about that, so much to be thankful for,so much memories to cherish and definitely some things to forgive in people,places and above all in ourselves. We made it this far by grace only.
As it’s my custom I did a final combing through my personal development plan today I’ve been at it for about a month just taking stock and checking how far I have come. This is not in comparison with anybody but in comparison with myself. Outdoing my past is what I’m about and every year I aim at being an improved version of myself.
Looking back I see there were some areas I can boldly say I did good at and went so high on the scoreboard, there were some I didn’t do as well as I would have loved to do and there were some I couldn’t even score *covers eyes*. Years back I would be beating myself up over the many things I didn’t get finished or the many mistakes i made, many shortcomings and the many promises broken. As I take a journey down memory lane today I am thankful instead I am not beating myself up over things this isn’t to say that i’m not concerned that I didn’t get it all right at every point but this is to tell me I have lived through the good,the not so good and the coulda!woulda !!shoulda!!!.
If there’s anything I have learnt about drawing a Personal Development Plan for myself it is the fact that I should allow room for even my short comings for all of the things I did not achieve makes all the ones I achieved worth it and makes me know I still have so much to aspire to. I’ve learnt to accept that all the things I see is happening for me and every single day is a good day to start afresh and get it right. The journey to personal development isn’t flawless and the fact that you did not tick all ur boxes 100% doesn’t mean you are not on track or you are not developing. Those things I didn’t achieve gives me a reason to push further in the new year with more tenacity and determination to get it right and be the best me there is.
So today, in this moment I recommend we do only one thing let go of the mistakes. Let us remain thankful for the things we got right. Going forward into 2014 let us ensure that where we fell in 2013 will be our highest rising point in 2014. Don’t let the fact that you stumbled or didn’t finish the way you would have loved cause you to give up your journey to becoming the most effective and efficient you because you. The good news is you are still in the race and you can still make everyday count for something GREATER,something MORE and something MONUMENTAL than what you settled for in 2013. Rise up and put your best foot forward and be present in 2014.
Get the note pad out write out what you want to achieve and what you want to see of yourself. We can be all we dream of if we don’t let other people’s vision or our own moments of weakness steal the strength in our pursuit.
We are made for more but we won’t get it if we don’t go after it. Set you goals in 2014 don’t just write them down and go to sleep do something no matter how little every single day. You will make it only if you don’t give up on yourself.
I’m a firm believer in the fact that people are always instrumental to our pursuit. They teach us, they help us,they hurt us and build us all at the same time. To the many people who I have in my corner this year, people who saw the sincerity of my heart even when my action could have been deemed faulty, people who fought for me even when I didn’t deserve a chance to those who whispered words of hope when I thought my faith was not strong enough to carry me through,to friends who became family and to family who doubled as friends,to the people who sheltered me when life rain poured so bad as I made my journey through 2013. To those who whispered words to strengthen my tenacity when I was too fragile and wanted to quit. I say a big thank you. I wouldn’t be here today if you didn’t believe in me and if you didn’t care enough.
To God most High I’m thankful for the opportunities you sent my way in 2013, thankful for the battle you equipped me to fight and win. I’m always shocked every single day how you believe I will weather some things. Your forgiveness found my patched soul when I was too weak to help myself. This life can’t thank you enough.
With faith in me and with Jesus joy I head into 2014 a future that seem so far some years ago. So, here’s to all the friends, opportunity, growth, development and fun that awaits. Let’s make every moment in 2014 count.

Words are powerful. Sometimes we say things and we don’t even know they are limiting us or stoping us from taking action that move us forward in life. In my personal development journey this week I promise myself I will make a conscious effort to check the words that I’m speaking over my life and into the things around me. I hope you do the same too.

………. It’s who you are that makes the DIFFERENCE ❤️