Life is a market and there is always buying and selling going on very single time. People are always selling things to us on a regular basis. Things that fit or do not fit. They make their pitch of their sales by their words (what they say to us) and their actions (what they do to us). And I’m not saying people can’t sell what they want to sell at anytime, it’s a free world and a free system just like there are shops on every high street selling several things, people are “life’s shops” but as a consumer I can choose what I want to buy and where I want to buy at any given time and I can decide if it’s not fit for purpose to return it so that I don’t end up junking my world. So many of us have bought lies from the human being who represent one of life’s many shops such lies like we are too sluggish, we would never amount to anything, we are not good enough, we are ugly, we are not worthy of love, we will never get it right, you are too skinny nothing fits you, you are too fat nobody will ever love you, you should have been a doctor and by now you would have been better off financially…..the list is endless.
At some point in our life we walked into some people who we thought were selling truths, who affirmed us, whose goods we thought were good quality that will help us in life but somehow things turned. The truth is sometimes this people didn’t change from good to bad we were the ones that just got carried away thinking they were good for us because they sold one good item to cover up the many lies they would later sell to us. To be honest, sometimes the people selling these lies are not even strangers they are people who know us so well and because of these ties that bind we think their sales are pre-approved and we can’t do anything about it, we believe the things they say and the junk they throw at us is got to be the truth so we continue to shop with them and continue to buy the lie. We junk up our world and we become so complacent and too lazy to take responsibility of sifting the words that we constantly hear.
Growing up in a supportive family where love isn’t found wanting I was blessed to know early in life how to sift what I buy from people. I wasn’t the most beautiful kid you’ll see (if I’m being honest) but I wasn’t ugly but some of my peers felt different as they thought that I was super ugly they likened me to a monkey. I remember always looking at them and wondering why they were so mean. Looking back now I ask myself how could a bunch of kids sell a lie that huge to another kid. Couldn’t they see how hurtful those words were or are some people just wired to be mean???? We were all kids but I didn’t get why they were so mean in their action but I still didn’t let it worry me by stopping me from going to the playing ground.(I don’t know how I found that courage). I didn’t break, I didn’t let their words push me to a corner where I felt alone without friends.
As I grew older and reflected on that season I learnt that people will see what they want to see and there will be some people who will see beauty in me and there will be some who won’t no matter how hard I try to make them see it. I learnt that I just have to be willing to change my crowd and change people’s position in my life if they are no longer interested in helping me see the best in me. Today, I go to places and I see people tell me how pretty I am but it still doesn’t get to my head but I’m thankful I weathered the childhood playground bullying and constant taunting and without letting it affect my self esteem. Yes, their words bothered me but no their lie didn’t crush my self esteem thanks to God and an excellent support system. I still I’m not “MISS WORLD” today but I’m the “MISS ME ” of my world and just like I didn’t buy that lie way back then I wouldn’t buy it today in anyway from anybody especially now that I know what my bible says about being fearfully and wonderfully made by a God who took His time to make me in His image and likeness.
Too many times we wait for heroes to come save us from the lies we bought and have now become. We’ve waited too long even to the point that we have now forgotten that we equally can step up and step out wearing our own super hero cape and hold every word and thought captive by telling ourselves our own truth that is founded on deep rooted convictions from God’s word. Words that tell us that we are powerful, blessed, amazing, brilliant and that we are loved. In order to not end up with items YOU don’t need, YOU have to take the items back to the store and get your refund or exchange. YOU have to be the one to take action and deal with the lies YOU bought. It’s ok to have people support you but first as the person who bought the lies YOU have to be the person who takes responsibility to return the lies. Until YOU’VE had enough of buying the lies YOU won’t do what is required to stop the purchase.
I’m not sure what lie you bought up until now that has affected your entire life and your belief system about your person and you think 2015 is just not going to make a difference because you are too lost. You can make 2015 count and it can be your best year yet if you will dust yourself and start finding your voice day after day by speaking the truth to yourself about your life instead of sitting in the same place and letting people speak their lie to your ears. Know this for sure anybody can throw words around because we can’t put a stopper on anybody’s mouth just in the same way we can’t demand that a store be shut down because what they sold didn’t work for us but we sure can put a stopper on the mouths that speak negativity into our personal lives by refusing to buy the lies they constantly speak to our lives. We can choose to hang around a different company, we can go on our own with God until we are strong enough to know those encouragers we are ok listening to.
You are responsible for what you buy and what you buy has a way of affecting how you will view your life. If you had only one thing to purchase in 2015 make the item something that will be of significance to your life and your authenticity. Make your one trip to life’s store worth it. Be responsible in your purchase, value yourself too much to not purchase a lie and if by chance a lie still creeps into your purchase don’t sit with it return it. Do better this year don’t buy a lie. You could get sold a lie but you have a choice not to buy it. In life it’s not really about what we are called it’s what we answer to.
Let me be the voice that sells you the truth in the here and now as you are reading this YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE LOVED OF GOD, YOUR LIFE IS ATTRACTING THE RIGHT PEOPLE, YOUR WORK MATTERS, YOU ARE CHANGING LIVES, YOUR EXISTENCE IS ENRICHING, YOU ARE SMART, YOU ARE BRILLIANT, GOOD THINGS ARE HAPPENING IN YOUR LIFE, YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE, YOU ARE CAPABLE OF LOVING SOMEONE AND YOU ARE CAPABLE OF RECEIVING LOVE, YOU ARE CAPABLE OF CHANGE, YOU ARE ONE IN A GENERATION.
Check your life and if you are not okay with certain habits by all means work to change them so that you can be empowered to walk bold in the earth and in your calling and in your authenticity. If it’s certain things you can’t change that you know requires the divine, don’t stress or beat yourself up over it, take it to God in prayer. Let go and let God. Get your cape darling because in 2015 we are going to be our own superhero and our vote and God’s vote (not the lies of others) will count more to determine how our life turns out.
Be an encourager. Be the eyes that sees the best in people and be the voice that calls the best out of people.
Remember WE WIN only when we DON’T QUIT.
Bible references: Psalm 139:14 Genesis 1:26
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